'Bachelor' Sean Lowe's Claim That He's a 'Born-Again Virgin' Is Total BS

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Sean LoweThe upcoming Bachelor Sean Lowe is all about religion and, though he was not a virgin before he had his religious awakening, he has decided to be one now. Oh yes. According to Wetpaint, he considers himself a “born-again virgin meaning even though he has slept with four people, he hasn't done the deed in years and won't again until he is married.

I have two words for the whole "born again virgin" thing: bull and shit. Sorry, but come on. You either are a virgin or you're not. I find it unbelievably hypocritical to choose to have sex and then turn around and decry those who do the same thing you do because guess what?! You're a virgin again! Come on, Sean. Aren't you better than that?

Still, you CAN change your sexual destiny. You CAN stop having meaningless sex and wait until marriage to do it again. Just don't call it "virginity." The concept itself is actually a nice one. After all, who knows better than non-virgins what a mistake sex can sometimes be?

But let's not call it born again virginity. The first time is overrated anyway. Truth be told my OWN first time was actually fun, but it was far (far!!!) from the best sex I have ever had. For that I had to live, learn, and experiment -- and for the record, I still have a lower body count than Lowe!

Sex is complicated and crazy and sometimes wrong, but it isn't a "sin" and having sex with someone you love -- even if you are unmarried -- isn't wrong. Period. End of story. So stop trying to make it a bad thing, people! All this "born again virginity" nonsense is so judgemental and full of guilt.

Face it, you had sex. It was good or it was bad and now you want to wait until you are married. Fine. Good for you! But call that what you will. One time, buddy. That's it. That's how many times you can pop the old cherry. After that, it's just adding to the body count.

Anyone who calls himself a born again virgin ought to rethink their phrasing. The only person who buys that is your own delusional self.

Do you believe in "born again virginity"?


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B1Bomber B1Bomber

It's a common term for people who were sexually active prior to religious conversions...if it helps them focus their self control, who cares what they call it?

dirti... dirtiekittie

i don't see the big deal. if you want to abstain until marriage and that is your belief, who am i (or anyone else for that matter) to tell you otherwise? if you don't like the phrase 'born again virgin' then don't be one. personally, i actually think it's pretty awesome that someone who has had sex (and probably knows how fun and awesome it is, lol) is going to take some serious restraint from giving in again, right? so if a title helps them, good for them. 

Kelly Pittman

why the big deal,let sean call it whatever he wants maybe alot more people should be following in his footsteps then wewouldnt have so many unloved babies and dieases,i think its awesome if thats what sean wants to do or call it im happy for him. god bless you sean you rock!!


Jenny Raye Vermeer

God created sex. He intended us to have fun with it. However, he also intended it to be between HUSBAND and WIFE. Any sex outside of that is sin. I applaud Sean for being a "born again virgin" or whatever you want to call it. Read 1 Corinthians 7 and see for yourself. As far as sex not being a sin out of the bonds of marraige, guess again. There are numerous verses in the Bible that deal with this issue (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). Don't be talking about things you don't know.

Miche... Michelephant

The point of calling yourself a born again virgin is to not hide that you have had sex.  It is to acknowledge that you've had sex and are now committed to not having it anymore for whatever reason.  It's just an easy way to explain your current sexual situation. 

nonmember avatar Sara

I agree with the other comments.. It is a coined term and the intention behind it is good. Way to go, Sean!

nonmember avatar Jasmin

This is such a stupid article. Just because he calls himself a born again virgin and refuses to have sex until he is married, does in no way mean that he is criticizing anyone who doesn't choose to follow his path. His decision has nothing to do with you or anyone else. Just because he refuses to have meaningless sex doesn't mean you can't. Stop taking things as an attack to the rest of the world. What is this? The fifth grade?

Gloria Davis-Spoors

Thank You Jenny Raye Vermeer. You said it the way I was thinking it. You go Sean, stick to your convictions. You will be rewarded!

nonmember avatar Stephanie

It's called celibacy. Not "born again virginity" Of course you're not actually a virgin again, you are just making a commitment to God not to have sex again until you're married. That's perfectly okay. That's something that he was personally convicted of. No one said is is judging others. Stuff like that happens when you get saved. Keep it up, dude. God Bless.

nonmember avatar dg

I have to agree with everything that has been said so far, the term "born again virgin" is, for lack of a better term, a play on words of "born again Christian." In God's eyes, Sean is virgin because when you accept Jesus into your heart all your sins are wiped clean. That is all that Sean is saying, he knows he is not literally a virgin.

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