Taylor Swift Reveals the Secret Flaw That Ruins All Her Relationships

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taylor swiftFor a 22-year-old, Taylor Swift already has quite a few A-list notches on her belt. Among her many loves? Joe Jonas, Taylor Lautner, John Mayer, Jake Gyllenhaal, and most recently, Conor Kennedy. An impressive list of hunks, to be sure, but all of those romances were over shortly after they began.

Well, in a new interview with Parade, Taylor provides some clues as to why her relationships, though hot and heavy at first, have all famously failed.

When it comes to finding The One,  “I don’t think there’s an option for me to fall in love slowly, or at medium speed. I either do or I don’t,” she said. “I don’t think it through, really, which is a good thing and a bad thing. You don’t look before you leap, which is like, ‘Yay, this is awesome! Let’s not think twice!’ And then you’re like, ‘We used to be flying. Now we’re falling. What’s happening?’”

I know exactly what's happening Taylor dear. You may be hitting 23 this month, but you still look at love like a silly, giddy 13-year-old. Yes, it's nice to feel a spark or see fireworks, or hear Pavarotti every time you kiss -- but a lasting relationship needs to be so much more than that. Anyone in a long term relationship will tell you that it is as much about your head as your heart. Do you share his values? Do you have similar interests? Do his goals jive with yours? Can you have a deep conversation with the guy?

There is nothing wrong with taking a moment to think about his character and truly considering whether the guy is a good match. Amazing abs (Taylor Lautner) or dreamy eyes (that would be you Jake G!) do not a real relationship make. And, as Taylor admits, breakups are hard:  "I don't get over people fast," she said. Getting to know a guy a little bit before jumping head first into a romance could  ultimately save her a lot of heartache. But then, what would she sing about?

Do you think Taylor falls in love too quickly?


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pupuk... pupukeawahine

This is how everyone falls in love.  There is nothing logical about it, it just happens.  However, even though you're over the moon, after some life-experience you know you better back away if the guy is no good for you.  (Easier said than done.)  She's only twenty-three, for goodness sake.  She should just keep having fun falling in & out of love, no rush finding "the one," plus her songs will just keep getting better than they already are from all the ins & outs of love in her life, as her listeners have already discovered.  Her life is her art.

Austin Keenan

I don't see the evidence of really deep heartbreak when they're over?    She's rebounding from the breakups as fast as she's falling so I don't see the harm in her approach.   If she starts getting married or making decisions that are difficult to recover from because she's not putting enough thought into her relationships it would be a problem but so far that doesn't seem to be the case.

Estel... EstellaHavisham

Suzanne Venker has something to say about this! Taylor! Your success is EMASCULATING. Seriously, with every strum of your guitar you are castrating men everywhere. They hate competing with you, they hate sharing the collective stage of fame with you; they hate feeling like groveling little wet marshmallows as they stand in your perfectly scultped shadow. You need to look into the mirror and realize your relationships fail because of you (read: vagina). Somehow be more feminine (and remember, cute outfits don't work, but submissive sandwich making does!).

Oh, wait, what? Ah, sorry, wrong post. 


tuffy... tuffymama

It looks like, from this side of it anyway, she has serial serious relationships. I've known girls like that. They hit 30ish and their souls were beat all to hell from "falling in love" every other month. She's 23. She should be dating or just focusing on her career if she's not going to grow up and settle down. Frankly, I sometimes think she gets into and out of these entanglements just to have material for her crap songs that she screeches out like cats being murdered whilst mating and scratching their claws on a chalkboard.

Jim Boss

Perhaps she should stop dating famous people who date solely because their publicists say it would be good for their image?  Just a thought.  I mean, I personally don't want a piece.  She's the most shot out 23 year-old I've ever heard about.  Still, what's the point of celebrity relationships?  Do any of them really believe they will last or is it about faking it for as long as the publicity is good?

nonmember avatar Jenny

She likes women. That's why she appeals to so many of her girl fans.

nonmember avatar neela

When Taylor Swift first got noticed, she seemed wholesome. In fact, that was her attraction.

We shovel a ton of money and attention on a young person, thenthey quickly become un-wholesome

she succumbed to the perks and sins of hollywood. she became obsessed with her celebrity status.

She turn into a psychotic stalker and teaches young girls to whine endlessly about break-ups and publicly embarrass the guys who dumped her after she probably was easily lulled into sleeping with them

she uses famous men as tropies to make it look she's the most desirable woman in hollywood. whoever is famous at the moment, she seduce him.

i'm just wondering why taylor's parents are tolerating this.

really sad. i thought she will stay wholesome forever as she had promise and as she always preached on national tv, she take her role as a role model seriously that's why she's always aware of not to make mistakes.

at the rate she's stalking and seducing famous men and boys, perhaps she needs some counselling or psychiatric treatment.

nonmember avatar that guy

Is this something I should maybe care about?

Taylor who?

gotch... gotcha1127

I think she's suffering from Narssisistic Personality Disoder, some symptoms are obviuosly showing on her:

  • Reacting to criticism with angershame, or humiliation

  • Taking advantage of others to reach their own goals

  • Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents

  • Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance

  • Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others

  • Becoming jealous easily

  • Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others

  • Being obsessed with oneself

  • Pursuing mainly selfish goals

  • Trouble keeping healthy relationships

  • Becoming easily hurt and rejected 

  • Setting goals that are unrealistic

  • Wanting "the best" of everything

  • Appearing unemotional

Charlene Burton

Her secret flaw seems to be that without failed relationships, she wouldn't know what to write songs about. No talent and no voice don't help that situation either, so without material, talent, and voice, what else would she do?

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