taylor swiftFor a 22-year-old, Taylor Swift already has quite a few A-list notches on her belt. Among her many loves? Joe Jonas, Taylor Lautner, John Mayer, Jake Gyllenhaal, and most recently, Conor Kennedy. An impressive list of hunks, to be sure, but all of those romances were over shortly after they began.

Well, in a new interview with Parade, Taylor provides some clues as to why her relationships, though hot and heavy at first, have all famously failed.

When it comes to finding The One,  “I don’t think there’s an option for me to fall in love slowly, or at medium speed. I either do or I don’t,” she said. “I don’t think it through, really, which is a good thing and a bad thing. You don’t look before you leap, which is like, ‘Yay, this is awesome! Let’s not think twice!’ And then you’re like, ‘We used to be flying. Now we’re falling. What’s happening?’”

I know exactly what's happening Taylor dear. You may be hitting 23 this month, but you still look at love like a silly, giddy 13-year-old. Yes, it's nice to feel a spark or see fireworks, or hear Pavarotti every time you kiss -- but a lasting relationship needs to be so much more than that. Anyone in a long term relationship will tell you that it is as much about your head as your heart. Do you share his values? Do you have similar interests? Do his goals jive with yours? Can you have a deep conversation with the guy?

There is nothing wrong with taking a moment to think about his character and truly considering whether the guy is a good match. Amazing abs (Taylor Lautner) or dreamy eyes (that would be you Jake G!) do not a real relationship make. And, as Taylor admits, breakups are hard:  "I don't get over people fast," she said. Getting to know a guy a little bit before jumping head first into a romance could  ultimately save her a lot of heartache. But then, what would she sing about?

Do you think Taylor falls in love too quickly?

 

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