Emily Maynard & Jef Holm's Official Break-Up Statement Is Absolutely Heartbreaking

Emily Maynard Jef Holm Break UpFor some reason, the break-up between Emily Maynard and Jef Holm tugs at your heart strings just a little more than the other Bachelor & Bachelorette couples. Emily was so wholesome and Jef was so sincere. But just as quickly as they fell in love, they completely fell apart.

For weeks they played us for fools as they denied rumors of their downfall. I'm sure many of us were hoping the rumors were just that ... rumors.

Well I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news -- but today, Emily and Jef both released separate official statements confirming their split. And let me tell you, it's absolutely heartbreaking.

Get the tissues ready, Bachelor fans ...

Let's start with Jef's:

What we shared was completely genuine and real and it breaks my heart but we have decided to break up. Emily and I are great friends and I hope we can continue to be friends forever. Everyone wants a salacious story to break, but the truth is we are just two people who fell in love and tried our hardest to make it work. I will always love her.

Wow. You really have to feel bad for this guy. He absolutely adored her. Poor Jef!

Now Emily's statement on the other hand, I'm not so sure ...

I am sorry to tell you that Jef and I have, indeed, parted ways. It was a very difficult and heartbreaking decision. I have no regrets because I did find love and shared an incredible journey with a really special person -- and you know what, we tried our best because the love between us was so real. I have nothing but respect and love for Jef and his family, but ultimately we are just at different points in our lives.

I'm sorry, but shouldn't you have sorted out the "point in your life" before you agreed to marry the man? That's the part I'll never understand. And I blame Emily more than Jef because she's been through this process more than once. This is the second proposal she accepted without thinking things through. This is marriage, people. This isn't just agreeing to date for another few weeks.

Maybe the show should change its process altogether. I mean, think about it, these couples are thrown in romantic settings on tropical islands -- with everything they could ever want at their fingertips. THAT IS NOT REAL LIFE. Did Emily and Jef walk into their bedroom when they got back to the "real world" and question why there weren't rose petals on the bed and a bottle of champagne waiting for them in the bathtub?

Perhaps if these couples actually went through good times AND bad times before getting engaged, they'd be able to last more than a few months. Just a thought.

Does this split make you sad? Were you rooting for these two?

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Alicia Zapata Couret

I am so sad about this. I really thought they could make it work despite the hard times. I think the media puts way too much pressure on them and they cant handle it. But Yes, I agree the show should be different than what it is... There has only been 2 out of like 13-15 couples that have stayed, they need to change the way they do the show.


KAV1970 KAV1970

That last sentence sums it up perfectly. I hate these shows - not only are they unrealistic to the participants, but it paints a picture for the viewer that will rarely, if every, happen in real life. These shows need to be call "unreality".

Jackie LeTendre

I used to like Emily.... now I think she is a confused mess who messes with guys minds!!!

nonmember avatar nancy

Emily has me puzzled this time around. She says her first concern is her daughter. Jef seemed to be a truly great father figure and I thought this one was going to work. Think about it people... Emily is beautiful, smart, etc. why does she need a show (2 times) to find her a good man? How come she can't find one on her own? What are her issues? It was mentioned she was very picky who they chose for the 25. When the Show first started I don't believe any bachelor/ bachelorette had any say on the contestants. I think she needs to wait until her daughter is older before she even thinks about saying "yes" to the marriage question again because it seems she needs to have a little growing up to do herself. She needs just to be a mommy right now. Just what she portrayed on TV.

nonmember avatar 1Katgrl

I like Emily but I do think she's for to have some hang ups if she cannot hang onto a guy. Yes she is gorgeous & nice but still is young. She needs to mature in life and just to be with her daughter and fine what she wants.

I do think the shows should just have the bachelor/bachelorrette choose the person they want to further their relationship outside if the show not get engaged. It's ridiculous to think two people that they should get engaged after a short.amount of time spent together who want to.spend the test of their life fromthe show.

rccol... rccola1945

 I watched this show a few times when it was brand new. Realized, it was just to fake to keep watching. Nobody, really finds love, in such a short time & in make believe world. Life isn't easy, & real life sure isn't what they put on like they do. I cant understand, how people watch this sort of surrender on TV. It was like a stupid soap opera & I haven't watched those in 20 to 25 yrs.

Melissa Catinella Muniz

emily cant hold a relationship shes too high maintenced,she is so hard to live with for sure! jef deserves better than emily maynard.shes a fake and a heartbreaker!stay away from her guy!

Connie Davis

Not sad, thought it would be Chris and Emily in the end. We will have to wait and see.

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