Ian Somerhalder Is No Christian Grey & That's Why Nina Dobrev Loves Him

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ian somerhalder nina dobrev vampire diariesIan Somerhalder may be one of the top contenders to play Christian Grey in the Fifty Shades of Grey movie as far as his fans are concerned. But his #1 fan, girlfriend and Vampire Diaries co-star Nina Dobrev seems to think he's got little in common with the fictional, brooding billionaire. And that's a good thing.

In the November issue of Self, she discusses the relationship "pre-req" Ian has: "He has to be a happy person. You’ll laugh and enjoy life more." Interesting ... As hot as he may be to plenty of women all over the world, Christian Grey definitely doesn't come off as a "happy person!" But hey, clearly, that wasn't a dealbreaker for Anastasia Steele ...

Regardless, I appreciate what Nina's saying. There's no doubt that being with a man who is positive, funny, and handles stress well can make a relationship easier and help you de-stress, "laugh, and enjoy life more," as she says. No one wants to be with a Donnie Downer! And when women are reading books like Fifty Shades and thinking of someone completely screwed-up and likely depressed like Christian Grey as the Ultimate Lover, what Nina said needs to be said.

But, at the same time, I don't necessarily think its fair to expect your partner to be the one who helps you enjoy life. Or to even necessarily expect him to be "happy" more often than not. If we do that, we're just setting ourselves up for disappointment. People ask me all the time how I'm so smiley, upbeat, positive, and pffft! Although I am a generally cheerful, optimistic person, I am NOT happy 24/7/365. Who is?

What's more, it's a mistake for anyone to rely on their partner to make and keep them happy. We have to be able to do that for ourselves.

Ultimately, though, I'm sure Nina's just saying she appreciates Ian's generally upbeat nature. That's awesome, and of course, no real cause for concern when it comes to the Fifty Shades flick. As long as he's a competent actor, Ian's genuinely sunny personality certainly won't be a dealbreaker when it comes to portraying Christian Grey.

Do you have the same relationship pre-req as Nina?


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cutem... cutemomjenof2

He isn't a happy person as Damon on Vampire Diaries, so that's why he would be good as Christan Grey.

nonmember avatar 3169Angel

And that is why he is called "An Actor" :)

Lolli Hood-Shultz

He is the brooding , conflicted bad boy vamp on Vampire diaries. He plays this role so well that youd never think he was a upbeat person in reality. To me that means that he would definitely do the role of Christian Grey with much justice. He is an actor, what he is in reality emotionally has no bearing if he has the chops to pull it off. His role as Damon Salvatore speaks volumes to his capability of pulling the role of Christian Grey off with bells ringing.

Irene K. Contreras-Ange


Sabrina Casseus

i do not care what anyone says, ian is christian grey, period, not ryan gosling, not anyone else but ian.

Tracy Houston

give him the chance i think he would be perfect to play christian its a challange for him to play christian i think he be good

Melissa Hine

I hope he is christian OOOO how good that would be. He is the man for IT.


nonmember avatar myvote

Media spin. Nina didn't literally say this. Ian would bring the character to life, and he'd be fantastic at promoting the movie. I love his interviews.

jessi... jessicasmom1

Hmm he is cute and she is beautiful

Samantha Henson

He doesn't fit Chirstian's appearance in the book though! Christian has copper hair (I know they could dye his har, but still...NO!) & is jaw droppingly droolingly handsome in the book...Ian is cute, but too skinny... he's not big/muscular enough or obviously gorgeous enough to pull of this role in my opinion whether he can act or not. I think Chris Hemsworth would be a great fit, or even Henry Cavill could be perfect in this role.

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