Rupert Everett Can Hate On Gay Dads If He Wants To

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Rupert EverettYou may know openly gay British actor Rupert Everett from such films as My Best Friend's Wedding, Shakespeare in Love, or perhaps Shrek 1, 2, and 3 -- but you've probably been seeing his name lately because of the jaw-dropper he shared in an interview with the U.K.'s Sunday Times Magazine last weekend. I call it a jaw-dropper because I'm pretty sure I've never heard an LGBT person publicly say anything like this: "I can't think of anything worse than being brought up by two gay dads."

Naturally, the statement has caused quite a stir online and off, with GLAAD quickly stepping in to condemn Everett's "outdated opinion." He's since clarified exactly what he meant by his criticism of gay parenting ... and I have to say, I completely respect where he's coming from.

That's not to say I agree with him. Not only do I hold the opinion that gay parents are every bit as loving and capable as straight parents (and truly, the sheer effort it takes for a gay couple to have children makes me assume that in many cases their family environment is far more positive and responsible), but I also think it's pretty obnoxious he went so far as to say he can't think of ANYTHING WORSE.

I mean, really? You can't? Because as a writer for a parenting-based website who is constantly combing through news items that have "baby" or "child" in the headlines, I could probably send you some links, Rupert.

Anyway, the full comment by Everett is this:

(My mother) thinks children need a father and a mother and I agree with her. I can't think of anything worse than being brought up by two gay dads. Some people might not agree with that. Fine! That's just my opinion. I'm not speaking on behalf of the gay community. In fact, I don't feel like I'm part of any 'community.' The only community I belong to is humanity and we've got too many children on the planet, so it's good not to have more.

The backlash, particularly among the gay community, was one of overwhelming disappointment. Everett has since responded to the criticism, saying,

The good news on this is I'm not applying for any sort of public office. I don't want to be a Mp (Member of Parliament), I don't want to be in a council, I don't want to be the head of (actors' union) Equity. I'm just an individual with my own life and the things I want to do myself. I'm not against anybody doing anything.

You know, what he said was probably hurtful to a lot of people, but he's right -- he was only talking about his own opinion. You can argue whether he's right or wrong all day long, but the fact is, Rupert Everett believes that a child should be raised by a father and a mother. It's surprising to hear this coming from such an outspoken gay man, but, well, not everyone conforms to the belief system we think or hope they will.

Everett may lose some fans as the result of the comment, but I'm not sure he'll care all that much. After all, this is the same guy who once mocked Jennifer Aniston's "tasteless rom-coms" -- despite the fact that's he's been in quite a few of those himself. I'm just saying, I don't think he's out to win any popularity awards, nor does he seem like the most self-aware guy who's ever strolled across the big screen.

What do you think of Everett's comments? Do you think he deserves the backlash?

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Rebec... Rebecca7708

Whatever. I appreciate his work, I don't care what his personal opinions are. I don't agree with him. I believe children should be raised by people who love them and take care of them regardless of gender. Be it two dads, two moms, a mom and a dad, just a dad or just a mom.

zandh... zandhmom2

I believe that both a mother and a father bring something different to the table in a raising a child so in that sense, I agree with him.  Not saying that a single parent can't raise a good child or two women and two men can't raise a good child but that having one of each that is loving does offer something more to the child.

Jessy Roos

Things worse than being raised by two gay dads. Let's start with the obvious: the holocaust, communism...I'd say 9/11, but as we all know, that was caused by gay dads. 

nonmember avatar Megan

Maybe Rupert just realizes how special his mom is to him, how integral she was to his life growing up, how special a mom is in general to a child, and feels for children who will not have one, and does not want to do that to a child, or agree with it being done.

Obviously moms die, or run away or whatever, but maybe he is simply saying that knowingly choosing to bring up a child that will never have a mother or father is a sad thing to him. And he is probably right.
In a world where ideal circumstances don't end up ideal, we make due with our situation, but to intentionally choose to have a child for your life that intentionally deprives them of a mom or dad relationship, just because you want kids, isn't necessarily the best for that child.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Thank you for not reproducing Rupert! Sad he feels this way but whatever.

Flori... Floridamom96

You know, jalaz, your opinion is far more offensive than Everett's.

Ashle... AshleyB1984

I wish people could voice their own opinions without backlash. People keep asking for equality yet they won't let anyone with a different opinion be heard. I don't agree with his statement but it's jus this opinion. He's not trying ot oppress it upon anyone else.

Ashle... AshleyB1984

I wish people could voice their own opinions without backlash. People keep asking for equality yet they won't let anyone with a different opinion be heard. I don't agree with his statement but it's jus this opinion. He's not trying ot oppress it upon anyone else.

nonmember avatar Janet

Jalaz's comment was in no way shape or form worse than Rupert's, and Florodamom is only saying that because she holds typical bigoted convservative views. Anytime someone responds on here with the same attitude given out by the inital offending conservative comment, Floridamom takes it upon herself to deem it worse than whatever was said before. Everything that counters a conservative view is suddenly "worse" or "more offensive". Grow up! I rarely comment on here but I have to point this out. Enough is enough. I'm tired of sifting through comments and reading defense after defense of all things discriminatory from this person. Time after time she needs to be checked and I'm just tired of her ignorance on this site.

nonmember avatar Sarah.S.

First heterosexual people weren't allowed to have opinions that disagreed with homosexuals, now homosexuals are not allowed to have opinions that disagree with the majority of homosexuals.

I applaud Rupert for stating his opinions regardless of what others think. His opinion doesn't stop people from having children or having different opinions.

Society needs to get a life and realize that they can't force people to share their opinion. The second they try to they jave become nothing but bullies.

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