'Millionaire Matchmaker' Patti Stanger Says Amy Poehler Killed Her Own Marriage

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will arnett amy poehlerAlthough she's often ripped for being single herself, Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger does give some solid relationship advice to clients. Like the time she told one woman her "laundry list" of must-haves for a man was a joke? Yep, right on. The other time she told a guy that toting his "sexretary"-like assistant around with him on dates wasn't exactly going to help him find a life partner? Duh. But unfortunately, Stanger also seems to have a habit of undermining her smartest advice by occasionally going to extremes ... The most recent example: Her commentary on funny couple Amy Poehler and Will Arnett's sad split.

In her new column for People, Stanger asserts the marriage likely failed, because Poehler was the primary breadwinner and more successful than her husband, which "goes against nature." Oh. Dear.

She then goes onto explain how a woman's success basically chips away at her man's self-esteem ("There will undeniably be comments and questions about your relationship dynamic.") and any time you have to devote to him ("You're probably on your email a lot, taking phone calls and going on regular business trips that don't involve your man."), sooo all that's left in the end is you, your shelf full of Emmys, and divorce papers. Wah wah.

I almost want to STRANGLE Stanger for this. Because the fact is -- there is merit to what some might call "antiquated" gender roles. When Stanger advises her female clients to get more comfortable with letting the man hold the door for them or pay for dinner on a first date or be the first to initiate sex, etc., I am totally with her. Whether it would make Gloria Steinem smile or not, sometimes we really do have to take the more passive role if we want our guys to feel like The Man. (Little do they know, we're still in control ... We're just letting them think they are!)

BUT to whittle what may have happened between two very successful adults and say it's ALL Amy Poehler's fault her marriage fell apart because she's slightly better known and probably the breadwinner is so ridiculous.

I'm truly bummed that she couldn't have written something along the lines of ... As important as it can be to assume your "traditional" gender role at times while dating and even while married, it's equally important for men to get used to the fact that women ARE breadwinners these days. We're making as much as our partners or more sometimes, and if they're so damn insecure about it, that's their problem -- not ours. If there's any truth to Stanger's assumption, and Will Arnett legitimately fell out of love with his wife because he couldn't handle her success, then Poehler's better off finding someone who is man enough that he can.

How do you feel about Patti Stanger's interpretation of what went down between Amy and Will? Do you think being the woman being the breadwinner is a relationship killer?



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Pinkmani Pinkmani

Patti Stanger is occasionally right; however, she's the unmarried one. I just think Patti needs to stay in her lane and let celebs live their lives. 

Jscot... Jscott1216

I think she's a judgemental bitch that can't even keep her own relationship going. I'm glad she's not on tv anymore.

nonmember avatar Anon

Will Arnett isn't some two bit nobody. He has a successful career and a substantial following. He could never work again and people would always love him just off good ole Gob Bluth alone.

Even so, I think it's silly to say in our time a man would be that insecure about a woman making more money. I don't know very many couples where one person stays at home.

wamom223 wamom223

Wow a blog where I agree with Maressa Brown.  I agree it is not okay to presume what went wrong in this marriage.

mumma... mummajenni

While I agree that this kind of couple imbalance can cause relationship problems, I don't think that's what happened in this instance.



I think it's really sad they are splitting. With such little ones, it is not easy. Of course parents experience changes in their relationship after having 2 babies back to back. Maybe they should try a little harder for a few more years, and see what happens. Just my 2 cents.

nonmember avatar Patricia

Isn't it about time Patti Stanger stopped giving people (uncalled for) relationship advice? The woman can't sustain a long-term relationship herself, let alone an actual marriage, so I think any "advice" she gives on the subject is worthless. She makes a living advising young women to dye their hair blonde and invest in a push-up bra so they can trick some horny millionaire into marrying them. This is NOT the person I look to for any tips on dating or marriage.

Nycti... Nyctimene

I have no idea who this woman even is, heck I barely even know who Poehler and Arnet are except that at least one was on SNL right? Either way, how ridiculous a statement to make. This isn't the 1950s and I don't know any man worth keeping that would be insecure enough about money to actually break-up/divorce over that kind of thing. Most men I know would be overjoyed because all it means in the end is more money into their [joint] account to do things like buy another car or a house or take vacations with. Most men really do not want to be the primary breadwinner, it's very stressful and I think assuming that they do is going to destroy far more relationships than helping out.

Kazoo22 Kazoo22

I think this Patty lady is somewhat right. I think there is a huge majority of men that still feel they are suppose to be the  "bread winners" when it comes to relationships and providing. It's one of those gender roles/stereotypes that is still pretty common. Even if it's not ground into men, most households have the father making more, so it's just something that's not directly taught but still makes an impact on men and on some women I think. There are some men who don't care, but that's a small number, though I imagine there are some men who would say they don't care, but really do. 

Leigh Anna Clark Young

Hell, I didn't even know that those two were married. 

mik1of3 mik1of3

I don't know either actor, so how am I supposed to even begin to speculate on what their issues were?  However, I think reverse roles can work, but it requires a very strong man to handle it.  My cousin was a licensed electrician / journeyman from the age of 18, and worked nonstop.  He married his wife, a dentist, after a long dating relationship through her college and dental school.  They had three kids, and after she went back to work when the youngest was born, his job became unstable.  His company got bought out, and the new management was trying to screw him out of a lot of his benefits, perks and salary.  So Carly, his wife, told him, screw them.  Stay home with the kids, and let me support the family. 
It was the last thing I'd expect from my big, burly, he-man cousin, but it worked out wonderfully.  Now that their youngest has started school, he's started doing jobs on the side to supplement college funds, retirement, and vacations....but he's still the one picking the kids up, and being 'room mom'.   The kids are happy, Carly is less stressed, and he's somewhat of a anomaly at their school..which suits them just fine.

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