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Usher Wins Custody of Kids in Ugly Divorce Battle -- Let's Hope it's the Right Decision

by Nicole Fabian-Weber on August 25, 2012 at 11:17 AM

usherThe bitter custody battle between Usher and his ex-wife, Tameka Foster, has finally come to an end, and shockingly, it's Usher who's getting primary custody of the couple's two sons, Usher Raymond V, 4; and Naviyd Ely Raymond, 3. The ruling is surprising in that it isn't every day you see the father getting custody over the mother; and the ruling is heartbreaking in that Tameka is still mourning the loss of her 11-year-old son, Kile Glover, who tragically passed away in July from injuries from a jet-skiing accident. Ouch.

The details of the arrangement haven't been released yet, but I will say, I'm kind of shocked that Usher is the one who will be the primary caretaker of the kids. During the acrimonious trial between Foster and Usher, Tameka accused the singer of being too invloved in his career to be a good father, and claimed that he's used drugs in the presence of their kids. Usher was also held in contempt of court at one point for canceling his ex-wife's Saks Fifth Avenue credit card. He was ordered to reinstate the card due to Foster's arguement that she needed it in order to "fulfill her duties as a stylist." Hmm ...

Hopefully, the decision is the right one for the kids -- and hopefully what Tameka said about Usher isn't true. It would be terribly tragic if these young boys wound up in the wrong parent's hands and had their lives screwed up because of it. They're still extremely young and impressionable. Their needs always should come first -- no matter how busy Usher is. He's their father, and that is his most important job.

What do you think of this ruling?


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  • cmjaz
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    cmjaz

    August 25, 2012 at 11:37 AM
    I'm very interested to see if they will release the details of the decision. I think everyones a bit surprised by all this.
  • MIA0223
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    MIA0223

    August 25, 2012 at 12:00 PM
    I kind of feel bad for her :(
    Lost all her boys!
  • howcrazy
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    howcrazy

    August 25, 2012 at 12:21 PM
    I feel really sad for her. I hope she is able to hold it together. I dont think I would.
  • ImaSo...
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    ImaSoulMom

    August 25, 2012 at 12:57 PM
    Wow. I haven't really followed this but its wierd that a mother would lose custody of both her sons like that. She suffered just the loss of a child. I hope this is not because he has more money and resources to defend himself. I hope it was done for the kids.
  • jessi...
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    jessicasmom1

    August 25, 2012 at 1:18 PM

    I feel sad for her but, I don't think it is all ugly Usher was reported rushing his ex to her son's bedside after that horiff accident that happend to her son. All people heal in defferent ways the loss of something maybe she just needs sometime


  • ratbag
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    ratbag

    August 25, 2012 at 1:22 PM
    If you're not familiar with Family Court, both parties receive extensive psych evaluations before a decision is made. Obviously, in spite of what she was saying and what came out in court, professionals decided that it was not in the best interest of the children to have this bitter, angry woman constantly acting out while retaining custody of these children. Usher seems to have a large family (mother, aunt, sister) who form a good consistent homelife for the boys.
  • ImaSo...
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    ImaSoulMom

    August 25, 2012 at 1:56 PM
    Divorce is not easy. Most people do not show their best side and let their anger get ahold of them. It is unfortunate but it happens. Not always. My ex was only found to be bipolar (an excuse he uses not to pay child support) after the divorce. I wish that psych evaluations were always used to help decide custody but it doesn't always happen. My attorney told me "You can do just about anything if you have the money to pay for it"
  • meghan
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    meghan

    August 25, 2012 at 1:57 PM
    She doesn't have custody of any of her sons. What does that tell you? Instead of the knee-jerk "a child should never be taken from their mother" reaction, ask yourself why she hasn't been deemed able to care for her other sons? There is something wrong with her and her surviving children are better of with their dads.
  • bella...
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    bella_grace

    August 25, 2012 at 2:53 PM
    There are reasons the court made the decision and for the children's sakes, I hope we never hear them.
  • kaerae
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    kaerae

    August 25, 2012 at 3:40 PM
    @ratbag - It is NOT standard for both parents to receive psych evals! It only happens in long, acrimonious cases in which both sides petition the court for the psych eveal and there has to be a cause. I worked in the courts for many years and rarely saw a psych eval ordered for a parent, it is only is there are concerns, found by the Judge, that such an eval. is ordered. I never had one in my divorce, and know only one person who did, so you are incorrect that it is standard.
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