This season of Teen Mom is proving to be the most interesting so far. Unlike many other reality shows, it feels like Catelynn, Maci, Farrah, and Amber are growing up before our eyes.
Some (like Amber) are continuing to struggle, to make bad choices, and to keep getting in trouble. But others, like Farrah, are thriving. We get the unique privilege of watching them grow from confused teens to confident young women and mothers.
Catelynn always touched me, but her desire to become a pregnancy counselor and reach out to girls like her is so admirable and beautiful. She really IS using her platform to make a difference and that is highly commendable. Still, as these women grow and change and become better, the dads also do.
Teen Mom and 16 and Pregnant are famous for bad dads. Sure, there are good dads sprinkled throughout, but for the most part, the "dads" on the show waver between mediocre and downright deadbeat. Ryan, Maci's baby daddy, has been no different.
He has been vilified and hated and, for the most part, rightfully so. It took him much longer to be a good dad. But now Bentley is 2 years old and Ryan is finally stepping up to the plate and being a good papa. That seems to make Maci nervous.
Oh, I know the haters will say he is only doing it because his parents want him to, etc., but it really doesn't matter what people think. It's obvious how much he loves his son. Sure, he makes some irresponsible decisions, but so does Maci. Letting her son get attached to Kyle and then breaking up with him seems pretty bad as well and Maci has done that twice.
No one is perfect. But Ryan is trying. He loves his son. He might want 50/50 custody. He should get it. Even if I personally don't agree with his view on pre-school, he is Bentley's dad. He deserves a say.
The fact is, so many moms are determined to do it their way and to control everything. This alienates dads. To her credit, Maci tries to involved Ryan but she tries to do it her way.
She made the decision to have a child with this man/boy. I feel for her. But that doesn't mean I think she should make all the decisions.
The "best interest" of Bentley is to have an engaged and loving father who feels like he gets some say, too. That means some sacrifice for Maci. It sucks, but it's what happens when you have a baby out of wedlock. Bentley loves his daddy and Maci wouldn't be a good mom if she didn't allow for that.
Do you think Ryan should pursue custody?
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"Ryan AND Maci Needs to Man Up"
You probably need to fix that....
2. Ryan had a point about Bentley starting school at the same time every day
Heck, No Ryan dont even deserve Bentley. He can not keep a job, the picture Bentley drew was for Daddy not Ryan's parents. Ryan can not get off his butt and get a life. I agree with Maci 100% If anyone cares about Bentley on Daddys side of this, then the parents should put him out, make him find a job and stop putting ideas in his head which will only result in Ryan's parents as always getting Bentley. Everything Bentley has at Daddy's( AKA as Bentley put it clear in tonight's show 7-24-2012 its papa and mimi's house) is all because his parents got it.
I agree that Bentley should go to preschool or daycare,most daycares now have preschool lessons so either way Bentley needs interaction with other kids his own age. So Maci, is in the right on her mother decision making. Why would Ryan's parents be against Bentley going to daycer/pre-school? Oh because there son is spoiled rotten so they want Bentley to be too.( Of course I would want to spoil my grand kids but there should be guide lines when a child has a child and the suppose adult still lives with parents with a kid with No job, no right mind and so on. Which will happen if they dont get on the same page as Maci of What's Best For Bentley.
It was sad that Ryan couldn't even get his son from pre-school all because of his selfishness of him and daddy and mommy not wanting Bentley to go to pre-school. As you all know this allready - Ryan is well in nice words a pieca of crap.
I think Ryan should at the least get something more official when it comes visitation whether he wants 50/50 or not. It does seem like Maci gets to determine everything.
I LOVE how these dads dont do jack diddly squat during the up all night, feeding every 3 to 4 hours, colic, potty training stage suddenly SHOW up once it's MUCH easier to keep them one on one and sleep through the night and everyone is all AAWWWW he is "stepping up". Um. No. He needs to do A LOT to prove himself as far as I would be concerned!