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'Bachelorette' Recap: Emily Needs to Chill Over 'Baggage' Comment
Tonight was the episode of The Bachelorette we have all been waiting for. It's the one where someone (but who?) called Emily's 6-year-old daughter Ricki "baggage."
The mystery a-hole was Kalon (big shock) who is a pompous jerk for sure. But her reaction to what was said on the show was so way over the top. Obviously, as a mom, I get that no one should ever call my child "baggage." But she was not there. She did not hear it.
If Kalon meant what he said he did -- that Ricki was going to be a lot of work for whomever married Emily -- then she kind of needed to chill. Because it's true.
Obviously Kalon knew coming in that Emily had a child and he is a jerk for suggesting that was a problem. And by all means, he had already overstayed his welcome.
But after knowing someone for a couple weeks on a nationally televises dating show and getting almost no time alone, to expect a man to think of Ricki as a "bonus" is just plain insane.
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In my life I know women who would never consider dating a man with a child, like deal breaker, the end, case closed. So what is so wrong if a man has his doubts, too? Does he really deserve to have someone go "West Virginia hood rat backwoods on his ass?" Emily has every right to be mad, but calling Kalon a "bad person?" I am sorry, but no.
Obviously it is not Emily's fault that she is a single mom, but she does enter a relationship with some extra responsibilities and considerations. Some men might call it a welcome challenge. Others might call it a "bonus." Others might call it a baggage. But you can't say someone is a "bad person" because of how they respond to that. That is simply unfair and incorrect.
Some people are going to take a while to warm up to the idea of a child. If that person is not for Emily, fine. But to publicly scorn him, curse at him and call him a bad person just made her look oversensitive.
Sure, it was not kind what he said. But the dude came in on a helicopter, thinks he is Jude Law and wears pink. He deserved the boot on day one.
I don't really think there is a winner in this pack, though. She really got the bozo lineup.
Did you think she overreacted?
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Marti Gammino
That's the whole point - Emily never does get it right. She has had a sense of entitlement since her stint on Brad W's season. She expects guarantees she won't ever be hurt and she has no more right to expect that than anyone else- life does not give guarantees,especially those kind, to anyone. And "baggage" isn't a terrible word. It may not be the best way to describe it, but all it means is there is something/somone else to be concerned with other than the person involved in the relationship. Emily needs to have somebody go West Virgina backwoods hood rat on her. Brad Womack was right - he dodged a bullet.
Cheryl Walters Sauselein-Racz
I give a big thumbs up to Emily.....no matter the age of my children, you say or do anything to them....you opened up a big can of worms & whoop a**!
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deonnapagesmith
I think she had every right to tell him to "get the f*** out" and yes he is a bad person! He KNEW she had a child going onto the show. And calling a child, "baggage".. congratulations guy.. you are now considered a douchebag by just about anyone who has or ever wanted kids.. Kids ARE a blessing.. Score 100 points Emily.. 0 points Kalon. I have to say ... if someone called MY daughter baggage, it wouldve went down a little worse than how Emily handled it.. she at least maintained some composure. When someone says something hurtful about your little miracle ( and all children are miracles), it strikes a nerve! I dont blame her one bit. And Kalon needs a reality check; hes not hot stuff.. he was actually one of the least good looking guys on the show.. and so what you have money? You have a crappy personality, and not much of a conscience, and youre conceited.... yeah not that much to offer. Good luck ever finding love with someone who isnt a gold digger Kalon.
Amy Lynn
I'm a single mom - and while someone having an issue with me having a child IS an absolute dealbreaker, someone being concerned about it - it not. A child is A LOT to take on. And Emily's daughter doesn't have a "daddy" in her life at all. Yes, she has grandparents and lots of family - but whoever Emily marries, will be the first "father figure" in her life. Ever. That's a lot of pressure. Especially if the guy doesn't already have a child of his own.
I have NOT seen this episode, and won't watch it regardless, but I've been hearing A LOT about this. I honestly think Emily blew up on him more for ratings than morals. Ricki IS baggage. Having a dead ex-fiance IS baggage. Having his family take care of you and be all up in your business IS baggage. Whether she likes it or not - her life is complicated and it's going to take one hell of a man to not only handle all of that, but to even be willing to try.
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