'16 and Pregnant' Recap: Sarah Expects Too Much From Her Baby's Daddy

Tonight's double episodes of 16 & Pregnant featured Sabrina and Sarah. Sarah is young, but, like about 90 percent of the moms on this show, she neither has a dad herself nor has a stellar baby daddy. Lucky teen mom Sabrina has a little bit more of a hopeful situation.

Unlike Sabrina whose baby daddy gave her a lot of grief throughout the episode, but eventually came through, Sarah's baby daddy is as bad as they come. Even though she has been with Blake for five years, he can't be bothered to give money for the baby or any energy for his new baby girl.

"I wanted her to have what I didn't," Sarah cried. Sadly, she is hardly alone among teen moms. The sad truth of teen motherhood is that it's often a path girls end up walking by themselves.

Even Sabrina who has a much better boyfriend than Sarah came from a broken home where her only dream for her child is an intact family. It seems intact families really are in short supply, especially among people who have children so young.

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In Sabrina's case it was the mom who left, but Sarah's story is much, much more typical. MTV had a piece this week about how many baby daddies actually stay around and the truth is depressing.

Most teen moms don't end up living with the father of their child.

This may seem obvious, but the fact is, pregnancy is different for boys than it is for girls. When Sarah cried about how they both made her daughter, but only she cared for her and how it was both of their responsibilities, it made me feel for her. But it's also a bit of wishful thinking. He was never a good choice as her baby's father.

Besides, why did she choose to have a baby if she was going to hate it so much? Women do have choices even after conception. Men don't. And if they DO make a "choice" they are seen as deadbeats and jerks who need to "step up." In theory, that is nice. But in practice, is a 17-year-old high school drop-out REALLY the best choice for the father of your baby?

As much as I feel for these girls, it's also important that they understand how they made the choices that led to this. Taking responsibility for our choices is half the battle -- whatever that means.

Sarah and Sabrina didn't need to have babies. They made the choices to do so with or without the consent of the fathers.

Unfortunately, that is just the reality of this reality show.

Do you think these dads who leave are awful people?

 

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paren... parentalrights1

Yes they are. Just like you say the girls need to responsible about the choices they make and the fact that the men are called deadbeats if they opt out, the men can be responsible too. They KNOW that they don't have a say once the baby is born, so maybe they should change the way they tend to try and coerce as many girls into sex as they can. Instead of it being all on the girls shoulders to always have to resist their own urges.

paren... parentalrights1

Men know they won't have a say after conception, so they should keep it in their pants. Women have to go through so much crap. So much more than the men do, but they are given so much more responsibility when the responsibility is on both sides.

Eli_M... Eli_Mama_11

Toomany of these girls think it will be cute to have a lil person to dress up n play house with...they just dont realize life isnt like a movie or a fairy tale...sad truth is too many of these girls think their baby daddy will be there ya there not....i feel teenage girls should wise up. They hold the cookie m they shouldn't let a greedu immature boy get it

D.j. Lord

Men know they won't have a say after conception, so they should keep it in their pants. Women have to go through so much crap. So much more than the men do, but they are given so much more responsibility when the responsibility is on both sides


Keep it in their pants?...Why if it has some place to go?...You say share the responsibilty but tell men to keep it in their pants but not girls keep her legs closed..Some shared responsibility!!...Why do women go thru crap?..Oh ya its because when a guy does want a say the woman beats him over the head with "my body my choice"..so dont whine bout having the burden when you insist upon it..

nonmember avatar Kbrown

Ok so regardless of who should have done what in the ways of protection a baby was made. It took two. So why is it that the girls who have no choice but to step up end up still end ul getting all the negative criticism? The guy had an equal part so he is equally responsible. its not fair to put one down and not the other.

Heath... HeatherMazzone

I hated her baby's father. Every time him and her mom got into a fight, I hoped she would get up and smack the crap out of him. I really feel sorry for her having an unsupportive father for her baby. The baby was adorable though.

work4... work4mickey

The mom could give it up for adoption at birth. If the mom keeps it, he has no say. The mom could choose to give up her responsibilty, and would not be judged. Heck, we might even comend her for making a responsible decision. But if the dad wants that same freedom to walk away once the child is born, he's a deadbeat.

work4... work4mickey

Once a child is concieved, ALL the choices(abortion, adoption, ect.) are hers, that's why all the responsibilty is hers. No, it's not fair. But life isn't fair and we need to stop pretending it is.

tecsa... tecsabates

Amazing to me....so many excuses why it is ok for guys to run from responsibility.  So if a girl doesn't believe in abortion or adoption  (for religous reasons or whatever)  she either has to choose to go against her beliefs to accomadate the guy or she should expect to be on her own cuz God forbid we teach our boys to be real men and take responsibility for their actions.   If there was no such thing as abortion or adoption, and that "womans only" choice were gone....would it still be considered ok for these cowards to turn tail and run?

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