Chris Brown Forgiveness at the Grammys Goes Way Too Far

on February 13, 2012 at 11:19 AM

chris brown grammys 2012 I don't know about you, but I wasn't thrilled with all the love Chris Brown got at the Grammys. It's only been three years since he beat up then-girlfriend Rihanna. But there he was, performing not just once but TWICE, getting more airtime than the Whitney Houston tribute! And then they gave him a standing ovation and a Grammy. What the hell?!?

I don't get it. We're supposed to just move on like that, after only three years? And why are people so ENTHUSIASTIC about forgiving Chris, anyway? It's like they're welcoming back a war hero and not a guy who beat his girlfriend to a pulp.

But it gets worse. Buzzfeed caught a rash of tweets from women saying super-disturbing things about Chris Brown. "Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater... shiiittt he can beat me up all night if he wants." "I'd let Christ Brown beat me up anytime ;)" Seriously? And you're adding an emoticon to that? Is it because you're JOKING? Or did someone pay these women to say this? People who want to forgive and forget -- I get that. But asking for more? That's just sick.

Thanks a lot, ladies. Good job feeding that myth that violence against women is a turn-on. Way to represent.

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I agree with Jenni Meyer's post in Crushable. I am not okay with all this big, loud Chris Brown love. I am not ready to just forget that Chris Brown beat the hell out of a woman. But obviously his producers and backers really, really want us to get the hell over it already because there's serious cash to be made here. And those of us who are still pissed at Chris Brown are just getting in the way.

For the music industry to look at their watches, shrug, and say, "Oh well, it's been three years," and then welcome him back with ecstatic open arms is just disrespectful to women. They're saying, "Shut up and take your lumps. YOU DON'T MATTER." And I can't believe so many women, especially, are screaming YES to more Chris. But I guess it's what we can expect from an industry that is always asking us to look the other way at lyrics that are violent toward women.

How do you feel about Chris Brown's reception at the Grammys?

Image via Grammy.com

About the author Adriana Velez

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Comments (51)

Madelaine

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:20 AM

Very strange

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Nonmember comment from katie

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:25 AM

What he did was awful but in my opinion it doesn't take away the fact that some people still find him to be talented.
He still has to make a living. It seems like some people want him to spend his whole life being punished which isn't really fair. From the public eye, it seems like he and Rihanna have moved on with life and put this terrible act behind them.

JAFE

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:32 AM

I'm with you. I'll never be able to like him again. Once you're a woman beater, you'll always be one. If you hit someone out of anger......get out of my face and don't expect me to buy your goods.

Nonmember comment from Mrs. Clark

I wasn't a fan of the performance, but really? It has been three years. That's quite a bit of time. He paid his debt to society, rhianna has obviously moved on and forgiven him since they are speaking. If the victim has moved on, why is everyone else still harping about it? Ur making her a victim all over again. Get over it.

cocobeannns

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:41 AM

How did I know there would this exact post on The Stir this morning. Lol. Well, in my opinion, no it was not okay what he did to Rihanna. But, the fact of the matter is, the person it happened TO has moved on with her life. She has forgiven him. And from what I understand, they are even in contact with each other. Maybe some people will never be able to let it go, but there is no denying how talented he is. And like some other's have said, he has to make his living, and this is his profession.

Nonmember comment from Michelle

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:42 AM

I agree completely. It goes to show all people care about is a show, power and money; character is a non contender.

MamaYankee

Ok I get it but Im not suprised. I dont think he should be banned from tv forever though. He was VERY young and extremely stupid and nobody can really say whether he is still the same person he was then. After working so hard to get where he is I think he deserves this chance. We have ALL done EXTREMELEY stupid things as kids and have moved on so I think we should stop crucifying the kid already.

Nonmember comment from Missj

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:44 AM

I was in a very abusive relationship for several years. I weigh 115 pounds, and am 5"7 while my boyfriend was 6"2, 220 pounds of pure muscle. He ripped chunks of my hair out, broke my nose twice, broke 3 of my teeth, broke my wrist and pushed me down a flight of stairs. It has been three years since I left him, and I still suffer from depression, anxiety, flash backs,and extreme weight loss. I had to move from Oregon over to New York to say good bye to my former life. I will never forgive my ex, nor will I forgive Chris Brown. If you haven't suffered abuse from one who is supposed to love you, then you cannot understand the pain, ramifications and feelings that result from such abuse.

brandspanknnew

on Feb 13, 2012 at 11:50 AM

So I get being upset because of what the women wrote about him beating them on Twitter, but as far as the whole Chris Brown and Rhianna thing... yes it has been three years, and people are not cheering him on because he's had 3 yrs of not beating women, they are cheering him because he is a good performer. How many good performers went through out history doing HORRIBLE things and then they are glorified because of what they do! Michael Jackson for example? Come on, I get not being over it, I get the need to still understand and not let people think it is okay, but I'm pretty sure it was not a glorification of what he did, but how far he has come since it happened. He's talented, let him be talented.

Nonmember comment from Jenna

19 is old enough to know you shouldn't beat people. And I don't think we've ALL done 'extremely stupid' things like smash in faces - I know I haven't! Just because a victim 'moves on' doesn't lessen the severity of the crime. As a victim of domestic violence, this made me SICK and I will never watch the Grammys again for as long as I shall live.