'16 & Pregnant' Recap: Allie’s Show Goes Too Far

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Of all the teen moms this season on 16 and Pregnant, Allie, the mom on the season finale, was by far the most upsetting one. There is no doubt that of all the moms, she will have the roughest go and this is why MTV has to stop or change things up as soon as possible.

Her boyfriend Joey has a drug addict mom named Yolanda whose first contribution to them as a family is to ask: “You trust day cares?” Really? She is more worried about day cares than her own teenage son and his teenage girlfriend as parents. Her biggest concern doesn't seem to be helping them, but instead to make things worse. In fact, that seems to be how their whole family operates, telling them they made big mistakes, definitely won't make it, and kicking them out. Bodes well, no?

And unfortunately, it gets worse. Yolanda screams obscenities at Allie and says the worst things I've ever heard on TV. And yes, that includes Gary and Amber.

Things get better once Aydenn is born, but it's still so far from even manageable, let alone ideal. Although none of the girls this season had ideal situations, Allie’s was by far the worst. Her situation was truly a disaster, and with such little family support, it's very hard to imagine these kids can really make a go of it.

Let’s review:

  • They have no money.
  • They have no home.
  • She was kicked out of her dad’s, her mom couldn't afford to keep her, and Joey’s mom is a drug addict.
  • Yolanda is abusive and cruel.

You know things are bad when they keep breaking in to tell you to call the domestic abuse hot-line if you're being abused. MTV needed to step in. There is a time to be an objective observer and then there is a time to actually do something. Why do we need to watch these lives fall apart? Does anyone really believe this child will turn out OK in the end?

It's maddening and endemic to the show. Yes, there are some good moms, but they are few and far between. For every Macy, there are 10 more Allies, and at some point, we have to say enough is enough. It doesn't glorify teen pregnancy by any means, but it does exploit them.

What did we gain by watching this season? Not much. It has been a painful, rough season. It may be the truth of “teen motherhood,” but it isn't pleasant to watch. Between the bad families of origin, the dubious dads (like Joey), the constant fighting and struggle, I guess I would rather see the money spent on these shows (in the millions, I am sure) go toward actually helping moms in need in basic, real ways.

"I tried," Joey cries again and again at the end of the episode. Tried? Really? Not so. And then, like so many others, Allie is left on her own with her baby.

The fact is, you know a girl is too young to be a mom when she can still trick-or-treat. Allie breaks our hearts, but so do all the Allies this show highlights. It isn't MTV’s job to save them, but it's hard to understand just what they're trying to prove with this show. They claim they're trying to help them, but by highlighting the incredible dysfunction, they're really just using these girls. They have called the series “groundbreaking,” and perhaps it was in the beginning. But like many reality shows, it has crossed the line into exploitation.

It’s like they're trying to top themselves to find the most messed up stories. Allie, Aydenn, and Joey were perhaps the saddest. They had very little support from their parents and no money, and then Allie was left on her own (as per usual).

At the end of the episode, I had the sick feeling that I had really just been a voyeur watching someone else’s undoing. I hope next season brings some happier stories.

What did you think of this season?

 

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Alynn74 Alynn74

It was the worst one I have ever seen. Although I understand that Joey needed to step up and be a father, I understand and sympathize with why he couldn't. I think he truly wanted to be a good father and be there for Allie but he just didn't now how. He stopped his mom from physically attacking his pregnant girlfriend and stood by his gilrfriend and against his mom. I haven't seen any of the guys this season stand up for their girlfriends and for that he deserves some credit.Maybe there's hope for him.

san74 san74

I believe if MTV is going to continue this show, they must step in and offer services,counsling and community help programs. Please help this girl and her baby.. :)

Crystal Nicole

umm her mom tired to be there for her and support her all thur the show her mom told her she needs to move back to jersey with her even and if you watched the very end once allie left her boyfreind the mom begged her to come home i think yolanda needs major help and joey needs to stop being so dang lazy i thnk allie will turn out to be a good mom instead of giong picking up the baby then going home to pack she left him in daycare so he woudnt be around a fight which was awesome cause thats the last thing the baby needs you need to stop judgeing these girls

nonmember avatar Kirsten

NOw this was heartbreaking and this was my life, and it's about time MTV showed this side instead of the Maci side with her parents supporting her or the other girls this season who just decided they have to support their child until they are 18. I dont think MTV took anything too far. I think its called reality and this is whats real. who ever the writer is is obviuosly not okay with teen pregnacy nor this show but yet they dont like it when it shows the grim and heartbreaking side instead of the warm and unexpected side of things. Perhaps the writer is a little bais. I commend Joey for standing up to his mom especially since he is 2 years younger then the girl, could she really expect him to be so mature?!? Think about who you have kids with before you start expecting things of them. It's like having a kid with a pedofile and expecting them not to touch your kid! Children are children just because the have kids does not mean they have to grow up, they still need to learn and maybe she should have pushed him more instead of just doing it and bottling up her again until she would get upset and say something.

Laura Elizabeth

Sorry but all these girls should give their babies up I have watched this series from the beginning and I'm over it! Only Macy has proven to be a good mom, but other then that the rest just suck at life. How about you create a show about the girls that don't decide to be whores in high school and go on to become productive members of society not living off their parents and the government, that's something to be proud about!

Momma... MommaSiete

I do not watch, it;s a stupid show.

Jocelyn Garcia

I Actually Think The Show Is Good. It's Not Like MtV Tells The People To Do That ! & It Helps Show All The Teens How Hard It Could Be Having A Baby So Young And Seeing The Reality Of How It Is ! ! ! I Wish They Had Came Up With This Show Before I Decide To Have A Baby ,Cus I Am A Teen Mom , I Would've Thought About It More ! ! & It Sucks That There Are Families Out There That Are Like That But Life Is Crazy Like That & When You Make The Decision Of Having A Kid When You Can't Even Watch Yourself You Have To Deal With The Consequences And Grow From It !

goinc... goincrazymom

@Laura Elizabeth, so because she was a pregnant teen she is a whore? That statement is why teen girls hide their pregnancy and have their baby in the bathroom and through them in the trash. As a teen that got pregnant my senior year, I find that very offensive. I graduated when I was 6 months pregnant with my now 8 yr old and have been with my husband since high school, whore I think not.


 


This episode was the worst one I have seen so far. Allie would be better off in Jersey with her mom.

Taylor Drees

If you want them to get help so badly go help them yourself or else just leave them alone.The whole reason you watch the show is to see what teen parenting is like and then you see a few bad stories and you think every teen mom needs help.Or that every teen dad will leave.There are worst things going on in the world.None of the mothers are living on the streets like some teen moms are they need the help!!Also she had somewhere to go she could have lived with her mom the whole time.

Justa... Justamom283

This episode left me at a loss. I too felt like a voyeur. I don't think MTV will stop. They will use the line if it stops just one girl from having unprotected sex and consequently ending up pregnant then it is a show worth showing and a story worth telling.

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