'16 and Pregnant' Recap: Taylor Got Robbed

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All the moms are too young on 16 and Pregnant, but Taylor on Tuesday night's episode was by far the youngest, both chronologically and in terms of maturity. At 15, she was too young to drive, vote, drink, and do just about anything. But she isn't too young to have a baby. And that is so, so wrong.

It was hard not to wonder how her mom -- who once gave up a baby for adoption at 17 -- couldn't have more of a say in what her daughter and her daughter's 16-year-old boyfriend did with that baby. The fact is, Aubri was a beautiful, perfect baby and, had they given her up for adoption, all three of the "kids" (which is what Taylor and Nathan are, too) would have lives. 

Simply put: Taylor's mother should have pushed for adoption much, much harder and not have allowed her to keep the baby.

That may sound harsh, but in this case, it is. I get that the mom was in a tough spot and I get that, ultimately, the woman should make her own choice. But Taylor isn't a woman. She is a child. And she needed someone to step in and say what needed to happen.

At the end of the episode, Taylor talked about missing high school and how those are the best years of life and she missed them, but she is missing so, so much more than that. When I think back to when I was 15 (more than 17 years ago), it's hard to imagine missing all the things that happened after -- high school, college, meeting my husband, grad school, traveling the world together. By the time we had our first child when I was 28/29, we were so very ready.

Taylor will miss all of that. At 15 she hasn't experienced anything. She is being deprived of an entire portion of her childhood just because she didn't have responsible sex.

On top of that, Aubri deserves better parents. No parent is prepared when they take their first baby home, whether they're 15 or 45, but I found myself cringing while Taylor bathed the baby. I honestly felt she wasn't responsible enough to do all those little things on her own.

You're not full developed at 15. I don't care how mature you are (and Taylor really wasn't), there is no 15-year-old who is truly ready to be a parent and for whom a baby would actually be a good thing. Baby Aubri deserves to be a "blessing" and Taylor deserves to finish out her childhood. Giving everything up in order to raise a baby seems a high price to pay for a bad sexual decision, especially when there were other options.

Taylor's mom should have been more vehement about this. As a minor, Taylor probably needed her mom to still do many things for her, which her mom could have used as an opportunity to push her daughter the other way. She wasn't a bad mom by any stretch, but a 15-year-old shouldn't be a mother, and her mom could have and should have been more clear about that.

The whole episode just made me very, very sad. Even the best case scenario for Taylor is still depressing.

Did this upset you?

 

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SicTr... SicTransitGlori

I agree that adoption seems like it would have been the better choice in Taylor's situation, but I think her mom did all that she could do. The four of them (Taylor, her mom, Nathan, and his mom) all went to the adoption counsellor and discussed the possibility (I think this was shown in the Unseen Moments episode aired after Taylor's episode). Taylor, Nathan, and Nathan's mother were all against adotion. Taylor's mother did all that she could do. To force Taylor into adoption wouldn't be right. A mother is a mother and no matter how you slice it, it would have been wrong to give Aubri to another family against Taylor's wishes. Not to mention that Nathan is the father and he and his mother wanted the baby.


Sad situation, but the pregnancy and the decision to parent were choices that they made. Aubri is a beautiful baby and I really found Taylor to be likable (but so young!). I wish them the best and hope to see a positive update from them.

2lilb... 2lilbumblebees

I didnt see the episode so I am not sure how she acted or anything, but i would just like to say.... When i got pregnant as a teen, everyone made comments on how I would not take care of the baby, they all said i was too young, too immature, too lazy even... My parents prepared themselves because they were so sure they would be raising my child ... They assumed I would worry about all of the things i couldnt do ...


 


Well after i had my daughter everything changed... I have now been told that I am the best mother they have ever met... my children are the best things about me. My life doesnt consist of parties, traveling, and meeting tons of other young people, because i dont want that life... I want the life as a mom. I care more about play groups and decorating my house than planning a trip ( which I can still take, but now i can enjoy it with my kids and husband) ..


Also, I understand not all teen parents are like that ( which is why we have so many deadbeat parents ) ... but the point being, you really do not know ... I mean i had people preparing to take care of my chikd because they thought I would since I was a teen mom, I proved them wrong, and this girl might as well !

critt... critter_boo

adoption would have been better

Pua Smith

She seemed like she was really trying to me, the big issue was the boyfriend. He wasn't mature enough or willing to recognize the amount of work a baby consists of. Taylor seemed genuine and sweet, and I felt badly for her. That being said, I do think adoption would have been better for all parties involved. She wanted to enjoy her high school years, she wanted to be a normal teen, she was struggling having to give all of what was up. Ulitmately, it wasn't her moms choice however. Realistically, these girls don't understand what childrearing entails, so they attempt to handle it. Sometimes very poorly (ala Amber) or sometimes wonderfully (like Maci). Of course, not all teen moms are a tragic story, but more often not, it takes a while for the girls to grow up and accept responsiblity for their actions.

nonmember avatar blh

I completely agree with you. If that was my daughter I wouldn't care what that boy or his mom wanted, I wouldn't throw my daughters life away for them. And most of the time its the girls parents who are stuck raising the child not the guy or his family.

tinyp... tinypossum

I don't watch this horrible show because I think it is disgraceful to profit from the tragedies of these childrens' lives. A fifteen year old is not ready to be a parent and the child of a fifteen year old will suffer because of it. There are too many victims in this scenario to even fathom. Adoption would have been a better choice. The best choice would have been better parenting, better sex education and access to birth control if she was hell bent on having sex. These shows should be cancelled.

meatb... meatball77

I don't think there's any way that she would have been able to give the baby up.  The father's parents and the father were against it.  That takes her ability to give the baby up for adoption away (unless they can prove that he's an unfit parent).


The whole, oh baby everything will be ok additude that these guys all have (who then all stop helping after a couple weeks) drives me nuts.  You know it's the exact way they got these girls to let them ditch the condoms. 

DiANA... DiANAiVELiSSE

 I agree with you "tinypossum" this is a HORRIBLE SHOW! ans laetly all I hear is that young girls are out there getting pregnant to be on the show , for 2 things: 1- to be on TV!!!  2 - the payout, seriously the original teen moms make more than I do..

nonmember avatar duck

At least her mom showed that she cared enough to want to keep her grand child. so there is some LOVE in there. and if you think about it this way, if she were to want an adoption, it can have that feeling on taylor that her mom doesn't want a grand child or will love her grand child. Taylor's mom probably REGRETS giving her kids for adoption. BUT I'd rather have people give their kids up for adoption than being a BAD PARENT to their kids. we all just gotta keep open minds to every situation 99.9% of the time

bookl... booklover74

Adoption was not an option in this situation and it certainly wasn't the grandmother to be call to make. You can not force your child to give up thier child for adoption no matter how much you would prefer it or think of it as a better solution.


Both parents(assuming both are known) have to concent to adoption and since neither of the parents wanted anything to do with that option it wasn't an actual option for them. If Taylor hadn't wanted to be a mom at this point or felt it was to overwhelming or she would be giving up to much wanted to go with adoption but Nathan had wanted to be a parent she could have given the baby over to him to raise and paid support but not had the responsibility of parenting and having to give up so many things at such a young age.


Of course having your life take a turn in a direction you didn't plan is hard . Yes the teens have to grow up and give up many activities their peers are doing but it's hardly the end of the world in the big picture of life. Having a baby young doesn't mean you don't get to be a teen or go to college and have a life it just means you do it all differntly and possibly in a less grand way than you had planned before. Many may teens that never have babies don't get to do the full highschool experience or go away to college and party or travel the country and it's not tragic or means they somehow have less of a happy life.

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