Man Whose Pregnant Wife Was Murdered Moves Us to Tears With This Statement

Davey and Amanda BlackburnThe capacity of the human spirit knows no bounds. Two men have been arrested for the murder of Amanda Blackburn, a pregnant wife and mother. And yet her grieving husband, Pastor Davey Blackburn, says that he is trying to "choose love, not hate."


Blackburn, who cofounded the Resonate Church in Indianapolis with his wife Amanda, went to the gym on the morning of November 10. When he returned home, he found his wife, who was pregnant with their second child, unconscious on their kitchen floor.

She had been shot during a home invasion. Their toddler son, Weston, was also in the home, though he was not harmed (physically, at least). Amanda died the next day from her injuries, and now, two men have been arrested for her murder.

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Posted by Resonate Church on Friday, November 13, 2015

What an unthinkable, senseless tragedy. It's absolutely heartbreaking and infuriating. But Pastor Blackburn's public statements have shown him to be a thoughtful, openhearted man who will surely take good care of their little boy.

"Though it does not undo the pain we are feeling, I was extremely relieved to get the news of the arrest made last night of Amanda's killer," read Blackburn's statement on the Resonate Church Facebook page.

He then shared three hopes he has for the case: that the courts have the "wisdom on how to prosecute this man"; that the perpetrator faces "great consequences" but that "he would become truly sorry for what he has done"; and "that Jesus would give me and our family a heart of forgiveness."

Finally, he shared that though the darkness threatens him, he is working to choose the light.

"Though everything inside of me wants to hate, be angry, and slip into despair I choose the route of forgiveness, grace and hope," Blackburn said. "If there is one thing I've learned from Amanda in the 10 years we were together, it's this: Choosing to let my emotions drive my decisions is recipe for a hopeless and fruitless life. Today I am deciding to love, not hate. Today I am deciding to hope, not despair."

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What a beautiful testament to the woman he surely thought would be his partner through life. I'm not a religious person, but the grace in Blackburn's words is incredible moving. I know from experience: The way through an awful loss is treacherous and filled with opportunity to focus on dark thoughts. By fiercely maintaining an open heart -- even in face of this travesty -- Blackburn will find the strength to give his son the life that his wife surely wanted.


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