I've dated a bunch of guys over the last year as a newly single mom and inevitably the conversation gets to sex. And as a sex columnist and writer, I figured it would be the perfect opportunity to get insight into what men think is the biggest turn-off in the bedroom.
Well. Let me just say that not only were the answers pretty much consistent across the board, the turn-off was something that I would never have thought would have made the list in a thousand years.
But worst of all, a lot of women do it. Including you.
I've always been a relatively thin person, dropping the baby weight after each of my four kids pretty quickly, but turning 38 hit me hard right in my midsection. And the back of my arms.
And oh, hey there thighs!
I've always been pretty active, maintaining a very healthy (and low-carb) diet, working out always daily, and generally remembering to stretch after I'm done. And if I fall off the wagon, I'm usually back into my pants with a little extra exercise and calorie watching.
But just lately, I've noticed a distinct change in my body, mostly that my pants are tight in weird places. Turns out, I've been making these five exercise and diet mistakes that are probably not helping my cause. Are you doing them too?
For the most part, I've always been pretty conservative with my makeup, keeping it pretty simple (if any at all) during the day and then maybe jazzing it up with a little eye shadow in the evening.
I know, crazy, right?
Well, lately I've become addicted to YouTube make-up tutorials, which have really helped me take more risks with makeup. Not only are they cheap and easy, they can make you look so much more pulled together.
If you've been remiss to go a little nuts with your makeup, here are 5 trends you should totally try.
I hear way too many moms complaining about how they don't want to have sex or how their sex lives are boring and well, I don't really have much sympathy because these days, there's just no excuse.
There are all sorts of fun things you can do in the bedroom to spice things up that you're probably just not willing to try. And hey, we tell our kids "you can't say you don't like it if you don't try it" when they turn their nose down to a new food.
Guess what, moms? The same thing applies to sex. So loosen up that darn chastity belt and stop being such prudes.
I've done my fair share of eye-rolling when I see moms with huge fake breasts. I mean, the risk of surgery alone would be enough to deter me from having an elective cosmetic operation, but I could also think of about 4,000 other things that would be more worthy of spending that kind of money on than new big boobs.
And honestly, are those women really doing it for themselves like they say?
But after four kids and the pregnancy weight gain and weight loss, I have to admit that I now understand why women do it.
Back when I was a brand new mom, or heck, even before I had kids, I was pretty judgy of other moms. I admit, it's easy to see someone loading their children up on candy or strapping them into a kid leash and say to yourself, "I'd never do that."
Granted, there are some things that I will never, ever not judge; Coca Cola in a baby bottle will make me cringe every single time.
But overall, I've realized that parenting context is everything, which is why I bite my tongue way more than I ever did before.
I ran into a new, very tired mom the other day and I couldn't help but remember back to when my now almost-10-year old was a baby.
God, she never, ever slept.
But the more kids I added, the more I felt okay letting them cry it out a bit, and surprise, the better they all slept, which led me to believe that it wasn't necessarily her. Maybe my sleepless nights were my own fault.