Ivanka Trump Schedules Time With Her Kids -- Should We All?

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Any parent will tell you that trying to "adult" and raise kids isn't always easy or a walk in the park. Sometimes it takes a little planning to keep both your sanity and day in tact, which is one of the reasons I can relate to why Ivanka Trump schedules time with her family -- a confession that, of course, has been met with some backlash, but could be the sounding board for a discussion about moms and work/life balance.


The 35-year-old First Daughter reveals in her new book, Women Who Work: Rewriting the Rules for Success, that she not only carves out time on her calendar for her husband Jared Kushner, but also pencils in time to connect with each of her kids -- daughter Arabella, 5, and sons Joseph, 3, and Theodore, 1.

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"I put real thought into coming up with ideas for memorable moments I can create with each of them," Trump writes in her book. She continues:

Right now, I play with cars with Joseph, on the floor, for twenty minutes each day. Arabella loves books, so I make a note to read at least two per day to her and plan 'dates' to the library. With Theodore, I commit to ensuring that I can give him two to three of his bottles each day and rock him to sleep at night.

I know this sounds incredibly formulaic, but committing to these relationship goals with each person in my family, when there aren't other issues that are immediately pressing, allows me to put a plan in place for those times during the year when it is more chaotic, I'm not as reflective, but I still want to keep those high-level priorities top of mind.


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Since news of Ivanka's calendar endeavors hit the Internet, people have been sounding off on social media about her planning efforts -- particularly, the fact that Ivanka admits she spends 20 minutes a day playing with her son Joseph.

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Ivanka Trump Twitter response

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One commenter pointed out the irony of Ivanka Trump telling career women to consider their biological clock, and yet admitting she only dedicates 20 minutes of time to playing cars with her son.

Ivanka Trump Twitter response

(Playing devil's advocate, we don't know if Ivanka only spends 20 minutes with her son Joseph, or if she just meant she dedicates 20 minutes to play cars with him each day.)

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There are also others who completely understand Ivanka and the benefits of carving out time with loved ones.

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Look, I don't need to go out of my way to make digs, as people are already criticizing Ivanka's new book for working moms. And though I'm the first to admit I don't have much in common with the Trumps collectively, I can't deny that I don't utilize my Google Calendar to help keep my often chaotic life in order.

Working from home full-time with my 3- and almost 2-year-old boys on the days they're not at their early learning center often makes me feel like I'm a one woman circus. (You should've seen me when I had them Monday through Friday.)

Scheduling out my day -- including reminders for me to take breaks in general to eat -- doesn't mean I follow everything to the letter like a robot, but it simply helps keep me on track on those days when it feels like time slips through my fingers. While I am present with my children, carving out time throughout the workday to really stop and dedicate time for play -- or a little fun at the nearby park, or chalk time on the back porch -- keeps me accountable, as it's so easy to get caught up and lost in daily work demands.

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I know moms who schedule out family time because their kids are heavily involved in extracurricular activities, moms who constantly have to travel for work, and single moms who work multiple jobs with limited time to spend with their children.

So, yeah, I get it.

Ivanka isn't the first mom to admit she schedules family time and certainly won't be the last. And as much as I have my own definition of what quality time is and means to me, I won't knock other parents who are likely doing what they think is best for their kid. At the end of the day, if utilizing the organizational prowess of a calendar helps ensure you get in as many one-on-one moments with your family, then schedule and schedule on.

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