Tess Holliday's Post-Baby Selfie Confession Is a Must-Read for Moms Who Struggle

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Tess Holliday has never been shy or one to mince words about body image and positivity, which is why the plus-size model's recent Instagram post made us stop and take pause. Six months after giving birth to her son Bowie, Tess Holliday reveals her "battle" to love her postpartum body -- which is a fight many new moms know all too well.

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No matter how easy it is to brush off someone else's struggle because of her celebrity, Tess's words touch the heart and speak to an internal fight that some mothers face postpartum but might be too embarrassed -- or ashamed -- to admit.

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Each day feels like a battle to learn how to love my body postpartum. It's been 6 months, & my stomach is lower, my breasts are a different shape, new stretch marks & I feel like a stranger in my body more than ever. I wasn't anticipating this at all. I'm not used to looking in the mirror & feeling like I don't recognize myself, but sadly that's my reality some days. I debated on whether or not to post this, but I think it's important to be honest about what it's like to be a woman in the media, who recently had a baby & the pressure that's put on new moms to "lose the baby weight". I was fat before, I carried a healthy baby, & guess what, still fat... & THATS OKAY. I have no New Years resolution to lose weight, but only to work on learning my new body & loving & nurturing it. Not a day goes by that Nick doesn't tell me how beautiful I am, but it's not our partners job to lift our spirits, we have to be our own cheerleaders. So that's what I will do, take it day by day. It's a journey, not a race.. & a beautiful one at that. #6monthspostpartum #effyourbeautystandards @effyourbeautystandards

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"It's been 6 months, & my stomach is lower, my breasts are a different shape, new stretch marks & I feel like a stranger in my body more than ever. I wasn't anticipating this at all," Tess captions on Instagram. She continues:

I'm not used to looking in the mirror & feeling like I don't recognize myself, but sadly that's my reality some days. I debated on whether or not to post this, but I think it's important to be honest about what it's like to be a woman in the media, who recently had a baby & the pressure that's put on new moms to 'lose the baby weight.' I was fat before, I carried a healthy baby, & guess what, still fat... & THATS OKAY.

Yes, Tess. ALL of this.

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I oftentimes feel like society pushes an unrealistic standard that strongly encourages new moms to drop all of their baby weight shortly after giving birth. And should you struggle, or dare admit you're still coming to grips with postpartum changes -- which obviously means "you don't love your child," because you're focusing too much on yourself -- you're now unfit to be a parent.

It's been 18 months since I gave birth to my second son. Most circles would say I had my boys back-to-back (I got pregnant again when my oldest child was 8 months), which didn't really allow me to soak in the reality of my post-baby body. I can remember standing in the mirror a month after popping out baby number two and saying to myself, Okay, so THIS is it.

And to be honest, I'm still coming to terms with how things are.

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Like Tess, I've seen that there have been noticeable changes in my body. My tummy has gone down (I never had a six-pack, nor do I want the pressure of trying to sustain rock-hard abs); my boobs droop a tad from breastfeeding (I nursed my first child while pregnant with my second). Although I have kept an active lifestyle before, during, and after my pregnancies, having babies has permanently changed my physique -- and it's okay.

I'm not afraid to admit, however, that I need a reminder in the self-love department from time to time and am so thankful for Tess's testimony. I also LOVE her New Year's resolution, which is one every mom needs to add to her list:

"I have no New Years resolution to lose weight, but only to work on learning my new body & loving & nurturing it," Tess writes. "Not a day goes by that Nick doesn't tell me how beautiful I am, but it's not our partner's job to lift our spirits, we have to be our own cheerleaders. So that's what I will do, take it day by day," Mom says.

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Thank you, Tess, for your truth and your transparency and reminding us that embracing our postpartum bodies is "a journey, not a race ... [and] a beautiful one at that."

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