Kristin Davis Is Terrified to Raise Her Black Child Now -- & I Totally Get It

Kristin Davis at the Environmental Media Awards
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I have loved Kristin Davis since her days as Charlotte York Goldenblatt on Sex and the City. Although I personally haven't had the pleasure of meeting Charlotte Kristin in real life, I'd like to think she, in many ways, is a kindred spirit -- which is one of the reasons why I want to have a heart-to-heart after reading that Kristin Davis is terrified to raise her black daughter, 5-year-old Gemma Rose, after the results of the election.

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Hearing Kristin's words during a recent event for The Greene Space about her privilege and her "heightened" sense of wanting to protect her black daughter made me take pause. Kristin expressed wanting "to move to the woods and learn to shoot a gun" to protect her daughter Gemma -- admitting she knows such a notion sounds crazy -- in response to the election results. Davis also admits she doesn't "want to talk to any Trump people" and has the strong desire "to be in a bubble" so she can protect her baby girl from harm's way.

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"I am white. I have lived in white privilege. I thought I knew before adopting my daughter that I was in white privilege, that I understood what that meant," Kristin tells event host Rebecca Carroll. She continued:

But until you actually have a child, which is like your heart being outside you, and that heart happens to be in a brown body, and you have people who are actively working against your child, it's hard. It fills me with terror .... The fear of what is happening and how am I going to make sure that no one hurts my child, even in a subtle way, which was already a fear I had honestly, but it just became so, so heightened.

I will never profess to understand what it's like to raise a black child as a white woman, but as a black mother of 2- and 1-year-old boys myself, I understand many of Kristin's fears, as they are my own. Sadly, prejudice and discrimination are nothing new and didn't start happening because Donald Trump is now our president-elect. Those things have been around, alive and well in this country, hurdles that many families of color have been trying to navigate around for many years -- centuries, even.

Most families I know (mine included) don't have the money or the time to retreat every time we feel our loved ones are the target of discrimination, which is why we stay and continue fighting the good fight, no matter who is in office.

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The fears and frustrations and uncertainty you have, Kristin, resonate with me more than you know. But rather than withdraw from society, or isolate myself from a group of people, I feel empowered to get more involved to effect change.

Your journey -- including growing up in South Carolina and witnessing racism as a youth -- and words about interracial adoption have the power to break down barriers and educate those in your circle (and outside of it) who may or may not be exposed to other cultures and communities on a regular basis. We need your voice. We need your fire. And we need your concern.

I find myself having in-depth conversations with other mothers that stem from commonalities: the love we have for our children and our desire to see them succeed and be kindhearted individuals. This common thread, which unites us as sisters in the parenting realm, is often the key that enables barriers to come down. It allows us to have open and honest dialogue, so we can gain a better perspective about what we all experience, even if we've never felt some of those things ourselves.

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I don't know what the future holds for our children, Kristin, but I grab your hand (virtually) with faith and hope that our families will be okay, because we, as mothers, will love our babies hard and with all of our might. The affirmations that you speak into your 5-year-old daughter's life -- "that her curls are beautiful, [her] black skin is beautiful .... [she's] beautiful" -- are the same gentle whispers I speak into my sons' lives on a daily basis.

No matter the adversity they might face, the setbacks, or tribulations society may throw their way, our kids will be empowered young men and women. They will know they can bear the weight of the world on their shoulders because they have devoted mothers who will help remove as much of the load off them as we possibly can.

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