Shonda Rhimes Wants to Raise 'Stubborn' Girls' & You Should, Too

There are tons of adjectives that you could use to describe a girl: happy, smart, beautiful, energetic, outspoken, tenacious ... the list goes on and on. But the creator of Grey's Anatomy and Scandal is giving moms something new to aspire to -- Shonda Rhimes is saying yes to the word "stubborn." This mom is raising three "stubborn" daughters, and she wouldn't have it any other way.



"I don't want to have a nice girl. I'd rather have a stubborn girl," Shonda tells Good Housekeeping.

I can't help but applaud this, because anyone who has experienced the magic that is Shondaland knows that Rhimes creates some strong female characters on screen who may have flaws, but who fight for what they believe in.  

So why wouldn't she want to pass along some of that same spirit to her daughters? 

You don't get to a point in your career where you've taken over an entire night (#TGIT) without having a tenacious -- or, rather, stubborn -- streak, especially in an industry that is male dominated. And her daughters are seemingly following her lead.

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"They couldn't be more different from one another, but they're all stubborn -- and I mean that in the best way," said Shonda about daughters Harper, Emerson, and Beckett, whose ages range from 3 to 14. The single mother adopted two daughters and welcomed her third into her family via gestational surrogate.

As Shonda explained:

No one will ever take advantage of them. They will always go their own way because they have decided they're going to. That was definitely like me as a kid. It's so much better than having a nice, pliable child who can be easily manipulated.


The way that Rhimes breaks down her reasoning for wanting "stubborn girls" is inspiring and something that I (and I'm sure many other women) can get behind. 

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Here, the term stubborn means strong, confident, and willing to follow your own path, which is something that parents should want for their daughters.

Young girls face so much peer pressure, and helping our girls gain that extra bit of confidence can only help them succeed.

Our daughters often grow up into women who are unfortunately not given equal pay to males. And, just as important, these girls will probably face gender biases in the workplace.

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The words "bossy" and "stubborn" are examples of labels given to women -- instead of descriptors like "boss" and "strong," for which their male counterparts are celebrated for being.

Girls have to be willing to not shy away and to go for what they want. That is how those glass ceilings are shattered. And now Shonda is taking away the negative connotation and making "stubborn" a word that can be owned.

So, I say yes to girls' being stubborn, being tough, being opinionated, and being determined.  

And there is no denying that these three girls in particular have an awesome role model for that. Can't wait to see what Shonda's daughters grow up to be! 



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