Kourtney Kardashian Won't Use the 'F' Word in Front of Her Daughter & Neither Should You

kourtney kardashian, penelope, reignIf there's one thing we know about Kourtney Kardashian, it's that she makes parenting her first priority. As a mom, she's equal parts couture and crunchy, but the well-being of her three kids is always foremost on her mind -- which is why we weren't surprised to see her shut down her own mom, Kris Jenner, over using the word "fat" in front of her daughter, Penelope.


On this weekend's episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians, Kris made the supreme mistake of asking Kourtney if she looked fat -- within earshot of 3-year-old Penelope. Without bothering to pause between bites of her giant salad, Kourt dropped the mic on her famous momager in typical deadpan style: 

"Don't use that word in front of my daughter, please." (Chew, chew.)

The conversation didn't go on much longer than that -- basically, Kris said "okay" -- but Kourtney did add that "fat" is apparently 6-year-old son Mason's preferred insult to hurl at pesky photographers. 

"My son, he uses that word in front of my daughter all day," she said. "It’s [what] he calls the paparazzi."

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Wow, so already Mason knows that's pretty much the worst thing you can call someone -- that's pretty intense. And it just drives home how smart it is of Kourtney to put the kibosh on "fat" talk in front of her daughter. First of all, we know how harmful this kind of negative body talk can be for our kids; according to a recent study published in the journal Eating and Weight Disorders, children with parents who talk about weight and body size were more likely to have eating disorders or disordered eating habits when they grow up. So shouldn't we all go out of our way as parents to censor our body-shaming sentiments?

Unfortunately, many of our mothers did not -- which is why it didn't surprise me to see Kris thoughtlessly tossing the "f" word around in front of the kids. She's from a different generation, one that wasn't as conscious of eating disorders and the consequences of negative self-image.

My own mother, bless her well-meaning body-dysmorphic heart, certainly fell into this category; as a result, I spent all of my adolescence and a pretty giant hunk of my adulthood being relentlessly critical of my body. The silver lining to that experience is that I know better than to make the same mistake with my daughter; in her 15 years, I don't think I've ever used the word fat to describe myself or any other human being in her presence. (This is not to say I'm not fully aware of the zillion other mistakes I've made as a parent -- just that I managed to sidestep that particular one.)

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Maybe Kourtney is motivated to ban fat-talk for the same reasons I am (after all, if Kris is talking about herself that way now, chances are she was when Kourt, Kim, and Khloe were growing up, too). But the fact that Kourtney makes her living in a completely image-obsessed industry and vegan-butters her organic gluten-free bread with the spoils of her scantily clad selfies and is STILL committed to protecting her daughter from this kind of language really speaks volumes. It's an interesting (and I'm sure challenging) balance to strike, but one that ultimately carries a potentially powerful message: Loving yourself is the first step in being truly fabulous.

And taking care of yourself is a big part of loving yourself, which is probably why Kourtney has made healthy eating habits such a huge part of her kids' lives (as evidenced in this super adorable and veggie-filled pic):


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So kudos to Kourtney for standing up to Kris on this one, and for being aware and conscious of the way words can affect our children. Extra points for doing it in the public eye -- let's hope that little salad-eating speech gives her many fans food for thought (no pun intended).



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