Jada Pinkett-Smith’s Advice to Moms Is Something We All Need to Hear (VIDEO)

Jada Pinkett-Smith

Ladies everywhere, please take a moment to stop what you're doing -- right now. Let's come to our virtual kitchen table for honest discussion, and a message that deserves our ear. Jada Pinkett-Smith's advice about motherhood is so timeless and relevant, both to who we are as parents, and as women.


"You have a right to be happy."

I'll never forget how filling it was to hear Jada and her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Jones, have Red Table Talk with her daughter Willow. It was a powerful discussion that included different opinions and perspectives from three generations. And even though some years have passed since the trio sat in front of the camera on Mother's Day, most, if not all, of Jada's sentiments are important for moms to hear.

Needless to say, I was beyond thrilled when I saw Jada's advice gaining so much attention recently on KiSS 102.3 Winnipeg's Facebook page. Now that I'm a mother (I have two kids), my listening ear is much different than what it was before. In many ways, I'm no longer on the sidelines, as I try my best to keep up with this parenting game (well, it's not a game, but you get what I'm trying to say).

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Hearing Jada, and her words as a mother, really made me take a look at my daily routine -- and whether or not I get lost in the process of trying to maintain it.

Being a wife and a mother is probably one of the most extraordinary experiences, and the most fulfilling experience in my life. But at the same time, it has been very difficult to balance being able to do the things I want to do, and have the freedoms I want to have -- and also, being responsible for you [Willow],  and your brothers, and your father. And I'm constantly, every day, trying to figure out that balance.

Yep, I'll give you an amen on that one, Jada.

As mothers, we feel a responsibility -- including a sense of urgency -- to take care of our household. Call it a code in our DNA or whatever you want, but most moms are constantly trying to look for ways to raise and build up their children (if you have a spouse or partner, that person goes into the mix too). And as great as this parenting journey can be, sadly, it's very easy for Mom to lose herself in the process.

This is why it's important to include yourself, and your well-being, in your neverending list of tasks.

Take care of you, first and foremost. Because when you stop taking care of yourself, you get out of balance, and you really forget how to take care of others.

The more happy I am, and the more fulfilled I am, it works for the family.

Sometimes I feel like society can glare at moms if any of us want to do something for ourselves (I know, the horror!). Since when does being a "good mother" equate to sacrificing everything -- including your entire being -- to prove your worth to your household?

As Jada points out, we've been taught that any mom who takes care of herself is a problem. This type of "messaging" (that's what she calls it) can rob a mother of her joy, and also make others responsible for her happiness.

"I am responsible for my own happiness."

Can I be honest? This is still a work in progress for me ... but I'm learning.

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Jada's message is perfect for ladies with children, and those with dreams of becoming a mother one day. With so much pressure to be the "perfect mom," it's good to have honest table talk like this. I love positive discussions that help build us up as women and mothers.

I don't know everything about being a mother, nor do I profess to have a PhD in Motherhood. What I do know, however, is that I am my best version of me when I dedicate time to my husband, my two boys, and myself. Sure, schedules can change without notice, and things aren't always perfect -- but at the end of the day, I always try to carve out some time to do something that gives me pleasure ... even if it's totally random, or absurd to some.

You can be a great mother and still have room for things outside of the parenting scope that give you joy.

Never forget that.

Take Care of YOU First (Red Table Talks)

Wow. You have to listen to Jada Pinkett Smith's answer to her daughter asking, "How hard is it being a wife and mother?" ~Nesta & Joe The clip is from a series called Red Table Talks; a sit down with Jada, her daughter Willow and her mother Adrienne Banfield Jones.

Posted by KiSS 102.3 Winnipeg on Tuesday, December 22, 2015




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