Don't Call Solange Knowles's Son Ugly -- or Else

Solange KnowlesIf the elevator debacle with Jay Z wasn't heads up enough, there's one Knowles sister you don't want to mess with -- and her name is not Beyoncé. Solange Knowles had no problem responding to a woman who thought it was a good idea to call Solange's 11-year-old son ugly. As much as she has the right to say something, you have to wonder if it was worth it.


In case you didn't know, this is the photo that sparked the comment from @alexandriaaaf, who I'm guessing is somewhere rethinking her words. While many thought Solange's 11-year-old son, Julez, was all sorts of fly in his track suit, @alexandriaaaf couldn't help but give a compliment ... along with a dig:

"So cute but at the same time he ugly.”

Young cool J too cool for ghost and goblins

A photo posted by Solange (@saintrecords) on

Solange had no problem clapping back at @alexandriaaaf, which just goes to show you should watch what you say:

@alexandriaaaf Jussst as I thought it was safe to share pictures again, a young’n like you decides to use her time to spread ugliness. I don’t fault you, I can only imagine why you would feel the need to say such things, but thanks again for being a reminder that out of all the love and wonderful energy shared, that when I open up a space for an innocent beautiful being like my boy to be criticized and judged, that I WILL most likely respond, and that he receives enough love and celebration at home that it’s just not worth it to go down this road. I hope that this really resonates with you and you make better decisions in the future towards how you use your words towards innocent children. And @ro.rxd get ya friend because this could have truly gone south if I was in the wrong mood.

Can we talk?

Yes, it is a mother's instinct to protect her child from harm, and while cyberbullying is a gross reality, I don't think any of us have time in our day to respond to every person who has something negative to say. I completely agree with what Solange wrote in her response, but hate that someone got under her skin enough for her to personally respond. It would be one thing if she made a general post about kindess -- or shutting up for that matter -- but my how folks will do just about anything for individual attention.

While there's nothing wrong with standing up for what's right, can you imagine all the fights you would have every time someone said something that didn't sit well with you? Don't get it twisted, I'm not some wise sensei who lets everything roll off her back. I'm just trying to get better about picking and choosing my battles.

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After going through more of her comments, Solange later made this post in response to some fans who questioned why she would entertain such negativity:

@tanwhite12 I actually respond to folks allll the time. Whether it be good or bad, but this is beautifully written though.

@tanwhite12 but your right. that's not really worth people sharing....

So long as there's an outlet for communication and anonymity, folks will always have something to say. How many times have we read hurtful comments about other moms, their parenting style, and remarks about their children? It can be extremely hurtful and quite cruel.

Granted, celebrities do have a larger target on their backs, but I really hope that all moms don't let haters rattle their cages. Sure, you can choose to keep photos, videos, or whatever happy moments you have of your kid private in efforts not to deal with a situation like this. But if you choose not to let mean-spirited people dictate your every move, be ready for folks who will make you question their home training.

Unless you pay my bills, or affect my life in some major way, I will not give what you have to say that much power over me or my family (like I said, I'm a work in progress).

Solange, don't let them see you sweat, mama -- they're not worth it!



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