Jaime King Opens Up About Her 'Perfect Birth' & Biggest Reward of Being a Mom

Jaime King

Jaime King is one busy mama these days: When she's not running after her 20-month-old son James, the Hart of Dixie star is preparing for the birth of her second baby with husband Kyle Newman  -- also a boy! -- late this summer. Yet in spite of the fact that she will soon be juggling two kids under two, the 36-year-old star doesn't seem stressed about it one bit. She's even found time to hang with her baby-to-be's very famous godmother (known to the rest of the world as Taylor Swift). 

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Maybe Jaime's Zen-like attitude toward the approaching storm comes from the fact that she's gone through so much to become a mom: Due to undiagnosed PCOS and endometriosis, it took her four and a half years, five miscarriages, five rounds of IVF and 26 IUIs before she gave birth to her first child. Then, as if that weren't painful enough, she bravely shared her fertility struggles with her fans so that others in similar predicaments would know they were not alone.

Curious how hear more about her plans for her growing family, we caught up with Jaime in a one-on-one interview -- and were happy to hear that getting pregnant this time was a whole lot easier than the last.

"It was a lot more straightforward. I feel very blessed," King told The Stir -- and she puts a lot of it down to having been pregnant already.

"With a first pregnancy, it's all so scary and different, you freak out about every little thing," she admits. "With a second, you also have a child to look after! So it seems like this pregnancy has gone by faster because I'm not waiting for my first baby ever to arrive."

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In addition to raising James, Jaime has recently helped launch Plenti, a rewards card where you can earn points buying items at various stores from Rite Aid to Macy's. Only for her, the biggest "rewards" she's racking up lately come from just watching her son discover the world.

"I feel like being a mother is the greatest gift I've ever been given," she says. "My son has shown me what's important. Given how long it took me to have him, I think I'd feel really sad if I didn't take in every single angle of his process of growing up. He's made me realize that a lot of things I used to worry about aren't worth worrying about anymore."

For instance: Although her career is still a high priority, family comes first.

"It's hard not to get caught up in the expectations that you have to be 'on' all the time for work, and answer every text and email," she says. "But if you're consistently caught up in your own life, you can't possibly give that to your children."

So how does James feel about the fact that he'll soon have a sibling? "He points to my body and says 'baby,' but there's only so much you can prepare someone 20 months old," she points out. "I just trust that everything will flow. I think it's an American desire, to want to make everything perfect. But life doesn't work that way. When we do try and do that, it rails against us. You plan to the best of your ability, then you let it go."

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Jaime also holds the same laissez-faire attitude toward getting her post-baby body back in shape. "I think the idea of losing your baby weight fast and bouncing back after pregnancy is really upsetting and disturbing," she says. "People totally disrespect the beauty and miracle of having a child. Why do we need to bounce back?"

If there's one thing she's learned about parenting so far, it's that moms need to stop judging themselves -- and others -- so harshly.

"It's so dangerous to think 'I have to have a natural birth' then judge yourself if you end up with a C-section, or 'I can't believe that person won't let their kid look at an iPad,'" she says. "All in all, thinking 'it's gotta be one way or the other' is completely unrealistic. It's just not conducive to the way life is. Nothing is perfect. I think the only question we should be asking ourselves as parents is this: are you loving your kids? To me, that' all that matters."

Do you judge other parents about anything?

 

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