Bethenny Frankel Wearing Her 4-Year-Old's Clothes Is Deeply Disturbing (PHOTO)

When a little girl tries to emulate her mother by turning her closet upside down and stomping around in her high heels, we think of it as a totally normal part of her development. She's trying to identify with the most important female figure in her life, and she's exhibiting a natural and healthy curiosity for what it must be like to be a grown woman.

But when Bethenny Frankel decided to post a photo of herself on Instagram proudly wearing her 4-year-old daughter's Hello Kitty pajamas, well, I can't say for sure I know what the 43-year-old mom was thinking. And I have to question whether she has any idea of the damage this could do to her child if she keeps up this odd behavior.


Bethenny, who is as known for being skinny as she is for being a former reality TV star, took this picture of herself and posted, "This is my daughter's nightgown and PJ shorts. Think we're ready to start sharing clothes yet?"

I think it's safe to say this photo will serve as twisted thinspiration for millions of girls suffering from anorexia.

But aside from the stir it will cause among women everywhere, Bethenny is hurting her own daughter when she makes it crystal clear that her ability to fit into a children's size 6 is a reason to celebrate -- as if she has accomplished something truly great.

The message she is sending to her, whether she vocalizes it or not, is that a prepubescent body is the ideal one and that women should work hard to maintain an unrealistically youthful appearance (and this is pushing the idea of "youth" to its absolute extreme). There's something sad about this that makes me wonder if Bethenny values herself at her age or if she's pining to be a young girl. Her daughter will benefit more from knowing she has a mom who takes pride in all of the career and life goals she has accomplished -- things that you can only achieve with age.

Before you say I'm thin-shaming Bethenny, trust me, I'm not. I'm not saying she has an eating disorder. She may have a fast metabolism, thin genes, whatever. That isn't the point. This would be equally disturbing if Bethenny wore a size 12 and still found it important to play dress-up with her child's clothing. As moms, we should be proud of looking like women. We should let our daughters know that they have a lot to look forward to when they grow up and that they have no reason to "compete" with their younger selves or with any younger body.

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It's possible Bethenny posed in these PJ's as a joke. As a way of selling more of her Skinnygirl cocktails. There's nothing wrong with her body. But there's a lot wrong with the message she's sending out with this photo.

What do you think of Bethenny's photo of herself clad in her daughter's clothing?


Images via Bethenny Frankel/Instagram

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