Jon Gosselin Broke the #1 Rule of Divorced Parenting

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So, by now, you're no doubt aware of Jon Gosselin's most recent Questionable Life Choice ™, which means you probably won't be too terribly surprised to learn that there's a wee bit backlash coming from one Kate Gosselin right about now, but just in case you for some reason haven't heard the latest, here's the deal: Jon Gosselin basically went on Oprah and trashed his own kids, calling his flesh and blood out for having "developmental problems" as a result of "growing up on TV," something we all know the dad has always blamed on his ex-wife.

Therein lies the problem, my friends -- it's all about that one nasty little word, blame. See, as a divorced parent, I can tell you that if there's ONE major, major rule you're supposed to follow while attempting to co-parent (or simultaneously but separately parent), it's to never, ever BLAME your ex-spouse for anything in front of your kids. And unfortunately, going on national TV definitely counts as "in front of your kids."


That's fighting dirty, Jon. Which is why I completely understand, and support, the response Kate Gosselin posted on her personal website,

I find it very heart breaking that my children’s father chooses a public forum to discuss his current opinions of the “development” of our children. These opinions are, in reality, value judgements made about our children and they are based on his limited visits (albeit mutually agreed upon) with our children.

Because he has spoken negatively about our children, I feel I owe it to them to respond on their behalf. Each and every one of our children has met and continues to exceed all physical, mental and emotional developmental milestones throughout their lives. Their normal development is regularly monitored by myself, their pediatrician and school staff, as is usual within any family.

It is also very normal in a family, especially a large family, to have a full range of personalities, abilities, talents, hobbies and struggles. Ours is no different. However, anyone who has personally met our children all have the same thing to say: they are the most normal, pleasant, polite, loving and well adjusted children they have ever met. Most even go on to say that they are a “a delight” to be around.

When our kids grow up, they may see their father’s latest interview and wonder why he made untrue and hurtful statements about them. I know that I risk stirring up an unwanted public and private “frenzy” by commenting on this, but, if our children ever stumble upon that interview, I want to be able to point them to this statement so that they know that I publicly set the record 100% straight on this one, for their sake.

Thank god those kids have at least one parent who is acting as their advocate and champion in life. I'm not saying Kate is perfect -- no parent is perfect, least of all me! -- but she IS trying. And that's all that matters.
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