Kristin Cavallari Is Pretty Much Raising Her Baby Alone Because New Moms Hate Asking for Help

kristin cavallariKristin Cavallari probably looks like she has it all, right? She's gorgeous. She's rich. She recently gave birth to an adorable, healthy baby boy, Camden. But thing is -- she doesn't. See, her fiance, Jay Cutler, is gone all the time because of football, leaving her to tend to the baby all by her lonesome. And that's hard no matter how pretty and famous you are.

Yeah, Kristen probably has a nanny or two, but for the sake of this post, let's pretend she doesn't -- 'cause we need to talk about how moms need to ask for help.


New moms are a rare breed. We want to do it all. We want to tend to the baby when he's crying. We feel like we should be the ones to wake up in the middle of the night (and usually do, as we're the only ones who seem to hear the baby crying then!). And, in the midst of everything, we want to try to maintain some shred of normalcy in our homes and in our personal life. But it's damn-near impossible to "do it all" in the beginning -- without going a little nutty.

Some new moms luck out more than others. It isn't the fairest thing in the world, but it's the god's honest truth. Some moms are blessed with the most "well-behaved" babies on earth -- babies who rarely cry -- and they still have their moms and mothers-in-law and sisters and friends help out. While others ... not so much.

Bottom line: Ask for help.

Even if you're not a person who loves asking others to help you out (hi!), in the early stages of motherhood -- when dad goes back to work (or if dad's not in the picture), help is a must. Trust me, I know. And, generally-speaking, people want to help in these situations. Ask a friend to pick up food for you while they're out; to go to Target and buy you a robe -- anything! You may feel completely vulnerable and out-of-sorts for doing so, but it is so worth it. You'll be a better mom for it, as your sole focus can be on spending time with your newest addition.

If you really don't have anyone near by, or if you don't have a mom and/or sisters, consider hiring a post-partum doula. I personally didn't have one this time round, but after hearing about people's experiences with them, you best believe I'm going to look into one next time.

So, Kristin, if you haven't already, get some help. You seem like you're doing a great job, but a few extra hands never hurt.

Did you "do everything yourself" when you first became a mom? Anyone hire a post-partum doula? Do tell!

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