Heidi Klum's Kids Taken Advantage of By Seal's Slimy Parenting Move

heidi klumAs a photographer, I have probably taken thousands of photos of my daughter over the years, and I've never once asked my husband what I can do with them. But the latest wrinkle in the very public and very nasty Heidi Klum and Seal divorce has me wondering if we shouldn't have a big talk ... and get it in writing. 

It seems Seal granted camera company Leica the use of personal photos of their children for an ad campaign. When Heidi told the company she didn't like it, they pulled the ads. But Seal is still saying he has the rights to those photos.

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So who's right here?

I'm torn right down the middle. The artist in me wants to say, "OK, if Seal took the photos, then he has every right to them, especially because they are his kids." But the mother in me says that's not fair. And over the years, the mother has always won.

The fact is, although my husband and I have never had a conversation about images of our daughter, I'm careful about what I do with them. We have "naked hiney" pictures of our daughter from her toddler days in our house, but I would never share them on Facebook. And although I do have images that might be considered "art," I have never once tried to sell a photo of her. Nor have I entered her in one of those "cute baby" contests that require an image.

I'm not criticizing anyone who does any of these things (well, aside from the Facebook post ... come on guys!), but those are the sort of moves that would have given me pause. I would have asked my husband how he felt before I proceeded because he is her father, and parenting decisions are 50/50 in our house. Like it or not, what is done with an image of a young child is very much a parenting decision.

Like Heidi and Seal, there are bound to be parents who are split on this. I have a friend who would be fine with images of his kids (wearing clothes!) being posted to Facebook. His wife, on the other hand, is uneasy about it. The fact that he doesn't do it, and he asks his friends not to share personal shots that might feature their sons in a social media setting, says a lot about what makes him a good dad: he's not hellbent on having his way all the time with the decisions.

This photography fight shouldn't come down to "ownership" of images. You can own photos and not share them; we do it all the time. What this really comes down to is two parents having respect for one another's opinions.

Seal should have had enough respect for Heidi as his kids' mother to consult her before he tried to make some cash off of them.

Do you talk to your child's other parent before sharing photos of them? Whose side are you on here: Seal or Heidi?

 

Image via The Heart Truth/Flickr

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