Beyonce Thinks There’s a ‘Right Time’ to Get Pregnant

beyonceAmerica's most famous pregnant lady, Beyonce, recently sat down with Harper's Bazaar and broke down her biological clock. She explained that the reason she waited until now -- about three and half years after marrying Jay-Z -- to have a child was because she wanted to come into her own first.

She told the mag: "It was important to me that I gave myself time to focus on becoming the woman I want to be, building my empire, my relationship, and my self-worth, before I became a mother. I am finally at the stage in my life where I am not so concerned with other people's opinions about my life decisions."

Couldn't have said it better myself, Bey. Totally with you. Did the same thing. Sort of. Kind of. I mean, I didn't have an empire to build or anything, but -- what I'm trying to say is: I'm not sure I would have ever felt 100 percent ready to have a baby if I kept waiting. I'm not sure I feel 100 percent ready now!

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Before getting pregnant, my husband and I did what I imagine most couples do: We planned when we'd start trying. We calculated that the time that would best suit our needs was when we were away on a trip to France this summer. We figured it was perfect. We both have good jobs; we've been married for over a year (together for six); we're both 32; and it would be pretty badass if our firstborn was conceived in the French Riviera. And much to our delight, it worked!

After the initial joy, a kind of low, dull feeling took up residence in the back of my mind, though. I haven't done all the things I want to do in life, I thought. I still haven't written a book. What if I can never move to another country now?!

These questions, concerns, whatever lingered in my head for about the first month and a half. I found myself happy-stressed, happy-weirded out, happy-I don't even know. But then one day, those feelings just went away.

It wasn't anything I consciously did -- I wish I had that much control over my mind. Maybe the excitement took over after my first ultrasound. Or maybe pregnancy brain has just taken over and I'm "forgetting to be stressed" or something. I really don't know. But I do know that when I look back and reflect on what I was feeling, I realize that A) it was perfectly normal, and B) if the me 10 years ago saw the me today, 10 years ago me would be pretty pleased.

I'm not saying I'm completely and totally satisfied in every aspect in my life -- I don't think I'll ever be. And I think that's a good thing, because it keeps me motivated and striving to be a better person. And I also don't think my "life will end" when I have a child, like many people like to insinuate. Yes, I know I can't fathom how different it will be right now, but I know plenty of women who are wonderful moms who also happen to kick ass at life.

I hope that that will be me. And if it's not, I imagine it'll be because I'm perfectly content with everything I have.

Did you feel 100 percent ready to have a baby?

 

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