Jill Duggar's Marriage Advice Gets a Mixed Reaction From Fans

Derick Dillard, Jill Duggar
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It's been five years since Jill (Duggar) and Derick Dillard tied the knot, and now that she's a seasoned married lady, she's ready to doll out advice on how to be a good wife. In a recent blog post, Jill shared a lot of tips on how to keep your husband happy, including how many times a week you should be having sex.

  • And the magic number is -- 3 to 4 times a week!

    As the first item on Jill's checklist for wifing, she shared, "Have sex often! You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol)." The mom of two continued, "And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate. Let your spouse know that you’re aways available. Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone. Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! ... If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!"

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  • Jill had plenty of other advice too -- some good and some a little bit weird.

    The basic premise of all of Jill's tips is essentially to care for and about your husband, and prioritize your marriage. She encourages wives to be open with their husbands at all times, especially during seasons of difficulty. And thankfully she even warned women from continuing in abusive relationships, saying, "If you are in an abusive relationship, do NOT stay! Report immediately to the authorities, get help and find a safe place to stay and get counseling from a licensed christian counselor!"

    But she also says it's a good idea to "track" your husband's phone, so that you'll be able to jump up and greet him when he arrives home from work and to "go to bed fresh" and put on "fragrant lotion in front of him" to show him "you're up for fun whenever he is."

  • Fans definitely had mixed reactions to Jill's sex advice.

    There was an awful lot of advice in Jill's article about pleasing your husband, and not a lot about making sure your husband is pleasing you

  • Some people asked Derick to write his own post about being a good husband.

    Hopefully it would be just as exhaustive a list all the things he tries to do for Jill to make her life as easy as possible. Maybe it would even include a line about not demanding she have sex with him any time he wants, simply because he wants it?

  • Others thought she shouldn't be giving advice at all.

  • And more than one person questioned what year it was. 

    Jill's marriage advice does seem a little antiquated, and it's certainly not for everyone. But she seems happy in her marriage, so it obviously works for her. If people don't like it, they don't have to follow it. 

    We're still going to be waiting to hear what Derick has to say about being a good husband.