42 Marriage Tips From Celebrities That We Can Actually Use

Samantha Sutton | Nov 15, 2018 Celebrities
42 Marriage Tips From Celebrities That We Can Actually Use

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We've seen so many devastating celebrity breakups in 2018, and honestly, we can't say we're surprised. Hollywood couples -- as much as they're celebrated, envied, and cause a whole bunch of chaos and excitement -- don't always last. In fact, we've pretty much come to anticipate that some time in the future, we'll hear the sad news that a favorite duo has called it quits. But perhaps, we shouldn't be so negative. Sure, famous relationships often get a bad rap, but there are actually a handful of spotlight-stealing couples that have managed to defy the odds and make their romance last. (Many have even been together for multiple decades!)

Thirty years into their marriage, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson still seem just as happy as the day they said "I do." Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard continue to make us smile every time they describe their super sweet (yet completely realistic) relationship. And while Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell never officially made it down the aisle, 35 years together is enough to make us ask, "hey, what's their secret?" Thankfully, as much as some stars open up about their struggles with breakups and divorce, plenty have also shared their advice for making a marriage -- or even a long-term romance -- work.

Some of the quotes about marriage success we've found are funny, with the key to success being something small and silly. Others are more serious and talk about overcoming struggles. All, however, are inspiring, and stuff we'll at least try to remember the next time we argue with our significant other.

(Hey, we'll take any good advice wherever we can get it!)
  • Goldie Hawn

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    Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell never officially signed a contract, but they've been together for 35 years! So what's the secret? "Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex," Goldie said. "If you don't nurture that, and remember, you're done."

  • Michelle Obama

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    It can't be easy being married to a president, but Michelle has a found a few tricks for maintaining her marriage to Barack Obama. "One of the keys to a successful marriage is separate bathrooms," she joked. "When [Barack] enters my bathrooms, sometimes I'm like, 'Why are you in here?' And he's like, 'I live here. Can I enjoy my bathroom too?'"

    Michelle has also said seeing a counselor did wonders for their relationship. "I feel vulnerable all the time," she told Oprah.

    "And I had to learn how to express that to my husband, to tap into those parts of me that missed him -- and the sadness that came from that -- so that he could understand. He didn't understand distance in the same way. You know, he grew up without his mother in his life for most of his years, and he knew his mother loved him dearly, right? I always thought love was up close. Love is the dinner table, love is consistency, it is presence. So I had to share my vulnerability and also learn to love differently. It was an important part of my journey of becoming. Understanding how to become us."

  • Neil Partrick Harris 

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    "In our relationship, communication is super important," NPH said to Entertainment Tonight about his successful marriage to David Burtka. "Good friends of ours said, 'You need to talk it out,' and if that means raising your voice, you need to raise your voice. Know what you're talking about. Know where you're standing as opposed to letting stuff build up, I guess."

  • Tom Hanks

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    Tom Hanks admittedly wishes "there was a secret" to his 30-year marriage to Rita Wilson. "We just like each other," he said. "You start there … I still can't believe my wife goes out with me. If we were in high school and I was just funny, I'd never have the courage to talk to her."

  • Will Smith

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    Will and Jada Pinkett Smith are both super successful in their own right, and it's concentrating on themselves that's kind of their trick. "If there is a secret I would say it is that we never went into working on our relationship," Will once explained. "We only ever worked on ourselves individually. And then presented ourselves to one another better than we were previously."

  • Kristin Cavallari

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    When Jay Cutler was signed to the Miami Dolphins, Kristin Cavallari wasn't too worried about their long-distance relationship and him being away from their Nashville home. "I have always said, it's kind of nice to miss each other. I think that's how we’ve always kind of kept our spark alive."

  • Emily Blunt

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    After working together on A Quiet Place, Emily Blunt and John Krasinski got a lot of questions about their relationship and how they managed to work together. "We really trust each other," she told E! News. "We're very honest with each other. We sort of have a shorthand and secret language that ultimately is gonna work for us."

  • Joanna Gaines

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    The Fixer Upper duo credits the fact that they keep a standing Tuesday date night as part of their success. "Marriage requires effort and time and talking and connecting," Joanna Gaines once revealed. "You have to maintain it."

  • Jessica Biel

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    Jessica Biel once told Marie Claire that her relationship with Justin Timberlake works because they "have similar values" and "like a lot of the same things." But she did have one piece of advice when speaking to People.

    "Communication, communication, communication," she said. "The ability to be really honest about how you're feeling and what your needs are. Just be able to communicate really honestly with your partner. That's worked for us so far. I would never want to speak on anyone else's relationship, but that’s what we do."

  • Kim Kardashian West

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    Balance is important for Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. "I think it's important that in all couples, the mom gives the husband as much attention as the kids," the reality star mom told Elle, adding that she continues to learn from Kanye and vice versa. "He's taught me to have more of an opinion. I've taught him to be a bit more calm or cautious. We’re a good balance."
  • Chrissy Teigen

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    "I think it's really important to be complete partners in crime," Chrissy told Well+Good about her marriage to John Legend. "I love the mentality of 'us against the world.' Even when you have kids, never forget your relationship as partners and lovers -- that's so important."

    (That's especially the case when it comes to raising their little ones.)

    "Even when we have Luna going insane, it’s important to be able to look at each other and be like, 'We created this thing and we're going to solve it together.'"

  • Kristen Bell

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    “We have a very healthy marriage and we got there by doing therapy when we needed it, and constantly doing fierce moral inventories,” Kristen once told People. Last Valentine's Day, the actress expounded on her marriage advice by sharing a whole list she had written for a fan.

    "Vulnerability always begets connection and intimacy. Stay vulnerable with each other. In 10 years, when the dopamine has waned, remember: Life is a crazy ride. It’s a privilege to go through it with a partner. Take necessary separateness. It will make your marriage better. Loving someone despite their faults, failings, or other character defects is the most powerful loving thing you can do. Rejoice in what makes the other person happy, and allow them their individual interests. Know that everyone is doing the best they can with what they’ve got. So get a bigger emotional toolbox to fix your problems."

  • Gabrielle Union

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    According to Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade, the best relationship advice has been not to listen to advice

    "Stop listening to people who have failed miserably at relationships as they offer relationship advice; that’s the first thing," she told Ebony. "Second, my 'perfect' relationship isn’t the next person’s. Stop comparing your life, your love and your marriage. Everyone [doesn’t] have to match for it to be real, amazing and beautiful. It only needs to be [those three things] to you."
  • Chris Hemsworth

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    The Thor actor admitted that with three kids, finding time for date night with Elsa Pataky isn't easy, but that they push themselves to do it. "Once you have children, every instinct and every moment of your time is consumed by that. You've got nothing for each other," the superhero celeb dad said when speaking to GQ Australia. "So, make sure you have date night even if it's once in a blue moon, because most of the time you’re just too tired and you’d actually prefer to sleep."

  • Ashley Graham

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    When Ashley Graham and her husband, Justin Ervin, get into a fight, they play something called "The Nice Game" to get rid of the tension. "One or the other says 'Say something nice, so the other has to say something nice," she explained to People, adding "It can't be a physical [thing], because that's obvious." According to Justin, it ends up working, too. "It helps put the argument or whatever the tiff is in the past, and [puts the] focus on each other again."
  • Faith Hill

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