Dax Shepard Admits His Marriage to Kristen Bell Isn't as 'Effortless' as It May Seem

Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell
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At first glance, Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell might look like one of the most pulled-together, hilarious, and adorable celeb couples in Hollywood. They share a love of Game of Thrones, have funny feuds on social media, and turn out to support each other on the red carpet. But the truth of the matter is that their picture-perfect marriage takes work, as Dax noted in an eye-opening exclusive with People this week. 


Their relationship might look it on the surface, but it's "not effortless," Dax shared. "We do couple's therapy. We work it like a job. Relationships aren't just perfect."

Juggling their careers and their daughters -- Lincoln, 4, and Delta, nearly 3 -- means their schedules are packed, so in order to prioritize time with each other, they'll "just commit to things," the former Parenthood star noted.

He elaborated: "If I say, 'Hey, what are you doing Thursday?' It's never going to happen. But if I put something on the calendar … it works out. But you do have to take it as seriously as you take your work commitments. It has to be scheduled and you have to prioritize it or it doesn't happen."

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While it may not be fairy-tale romantic, this perspective certainly sounds pragmatic. When you're both busy with work and kids, it's far too easy for bonding time to get lost in the shuffle. So, it makes sense to see how helpful it is for Dax and Kristen to be on the same page not only about making an effort in this way -- but what that effort looks like.

Don't get Dax wrong. The pair has plenty of flirtatious fun, too. 

The dad of two recalled a particularly sweet, funny moment the couple shared. "We got into this really crazy one-upmanship of -- so she was doing a movie in Alaska and I was shooting Parenthood and I couldn't go and she was going away for a long time," he noted. "But then my schedule changed and I didn't tell her, so I got the seat next to her on the airplane and then I sweet-talked the gate representative to let me on the plane early. So when she went to sit down, I was in her seat reading a newspaper and she kept going, 'Excuse me, sir. Excuse me, sir. I think you're in my seat.' And then she noticed those hands look familiar and then she started bawling when she saw that I was on the flight. And then so she did it to me on the way back." 


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This isn't the first time the couple has publicly acknowledged that they see a therapist as a couple. The two opened up about it to Good Housekeeping back in 2015. 

"There were hurdles, things she didn't trust about me, things I didn't trust about her," Dax noted then. "I just kept going back to 'this person has the thing I want, and I have to figure out how we can exist peacefully.' So we started [seeing a therapist together] right away."

As a result, they learned how to argue better. "The way Dax and I argue now -- and we argue a lot; we disagree on almost everything! -- is so healthy," Kristen shared. "You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don't figure out how to cook without reading a recipe. Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about."

It definitely isn't. And all that therapy and hard work has clearly paid off. 

In fact, in March, Kristen told People that it's the secret to their happy marriage. "We have a very healthy marriage and we got there by doing therapy when we needed it, and constantly doing fierce moral inventories," she said. "We both take responsibility when we are wrong, and I think it is easy to work with him because I married him, because I enjoy spending time with him and I trust him. That is exactly what I want in someone that I work with."

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