'The Real' Host Loni Love Opens Up About Never Wanting Kids After Her Miscarriage

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Recently on a segment of The Real entitled "Girl Chat: I'm Late. Period," the ladies of this popular talk show kept it candid as always about the topic of, well, being late -- something that causes many women to react with sheer panic. And in the spirit of "keeping it real," cohost Loni Love took the convo a step further to speak about her own experience with being late and everything that came after. She revealed that she'd had a miscarriage, and she opened up about how it affected her decision to not have children.

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While on the topic of missed periods, Love and fellow cohosts Tamera Mowry-Housley, Adrienne Bailon, and Jeannie Mai dove into discussing their subsquent scares, their past and present fears, and their excitement about finding out about pregnancy. 

As the conversation progressed, the 45-year-old comedian made what would later become a tearful confession about her personal experience with loss. 

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(Please don't watch this video without some Kleenex handy.)

 

She explains that in her late 20s, she missed a period. And after taking about 14 pregnancy tests, she went to the doctor and confirmed that she was in fact pregnant.

"At the time, I started processing it ... The dude I was with, he was excited, but I was still really, really nervous. But then, eventually, you know that nature takes over," said the star about accepting her pregnancy.

Loni continued, "And, sure enough, as soon as I was okay with [being pregnant], about 8 weeks, I miscarried."

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Talk about devastating. I can only imagine what she must have felt to realize that her life was going to change, prepare herself for that change, and then suddenly lose everything.

And it's no wonder that the Real host made a point to acknowledge that she takes pregnancy very seriously.

She explained:

I just never wanted that feeling again, because I was already afraid. ... I had so much love for that baby .... That's why I don't take it lightly. After that, I made sure I would never get pregnant again, because I didn't want to have to go through that. I felt like it was a person I was letting down.

What's even more heartbreaking is that Loni mentions she felt as if she let her unborn child down. And she's not alone in her feelings; there are many women out there who have had miscarriages and feel as if it's their fault.

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"That's the reason I don't have children to this day," Love expressed to the ladies. 

Hopefully, women will take this honest conversation to heart, as many have faced the same struggles. 

There is no shame in having a miscarriage. And women need to understand they are not to blame. 

I sincerely hope that more women will open up about their experiences so that they can grieve and heal with the same level of support that Loni Love received from her cohosts. 

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