Chip & Joanna Gaines Don't Deserve to Be Publicly Shamed for Their Pastor's Views

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If you happen to love the sight of shiplap and making old things new again, there's a pretty good chance you're a fan of the HGTV show Fixer Upper and the real-life couple behind the amazing transformations, Chip and Joanna Gaines. These two have skyrocketed to stardom with their hit show, their own magazine, paint line, and other businesses that have made them household names. Now it seems this beloved couple is making headlines and not for something Pinterest-worthy. A BuzzFeed article pointing out Chip and Joanna Gaines's pastor is anti-LGBTQ and same-sex marriage is making waves -- with many actually coming to the Gaineses defense.


... Because, you know, Chip and Joanna haven't actually said or done anything horrible -- like discriminate against a couple or family because of their sexual orientation -- that we know of.

Needless to say, Kate Aurthur's BuzzFeed article -- which focuses so much on the Gaineses' church and its stance on gay marriage and the LGBTQ community, without offering as much as an ounce of evidence to show Chip and Joanna follow their pastor's words to the letter -- has gained a ton of attention. And in an article on, another writer asks the Gaineses to clarify their stance on gay marriage.

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Basically, Jimmy Seibert, senior pastor at the Antioch Community Church in Waco, Texas, is under fire about a controversial sermon he delivered at his church last year in response to the 2015 Supreme Court decision that made same-sex marriage legal nationwide. The video of his sermon shows Seibert using biblical references to talk about homosexuality and defend the traditional position that marriage is between a man and a woman.

"God defined marriage, not you and I. God defined masculine and feminine, male and female, not you and I," Seibert said during his sermon. "Truth No. 1: Homosexuality is a sin. The lie: Homosexuality is not a sin." He went on to say, "Truth No. 2: God is able to give us power over every sin, including homosexuality. Lie No. 2: I am a homosexual in thought and action, and I cannot change."

Pastor Seibert recently responded to the BuzzFeed article, telling Todd Starnes (who is also a digital host):

Do we believe that God and his word is right and enough? As a believer, I need to do what's right and trust God with what's wrong.

So when I have a biblical conviction about my lifestyle choices or how I should run my business or how I should run my home, we should be free to do that – to lovingly express our views to the world around us.

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While Chip and Joanna have yet to respond to questions about what they think about same-sex marriage and whether or not they'll have couples from the LGBTQ community on their show, reps for HGTV have responded to the accusation against the Gaineses telling The Huffington Post:

We don't discriminate against members of the LGBT community in any of our shows. HGTV is proud to have a crystal clear, consistent record of including people from all walks of life in its series.

I've been trying to think of something witty to say in response to this nonsense, but my head hurts. I'm deeply troubled that we, as a society, have gone so bonkers that we now make it okay to chase after people with our virtual torches to demand they tell us what they believe right then and there -- or deal with the consequences in social media court.

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My DVR is full of Fixer Upper episodes, and to my knowledge, Chip and Joanna haven't done anything that would warrant a side-eye or make me feel in any way that they aren't inclusive. And thankfully, I'm not the only one who feels this way as many people -- including men and women from the LGBTQ community -- had no problem taking to Facebook to voice their concerns and frustrations.

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I'm a follower of Jesus Christ. My family and I attend church weekly. I tithe and give back as much as possible -- whether that means teaming up with a nearby Jewish organization that helps refugees or others that don't have a cross hanging on the building. (Clutch your pearls and hold your church announcement!)

I'm also not spending time trying to peek inside people's homes to see who is sleeping with who and do believe all taxpaying folks in this country should have the same rights, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, and whatever other category you want to throw in there.

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Should I stop affiliating with friends and people I know who aren't Christians, live a different way than me, or have differing convictions than me? Or should I continue to walk in love (I don't always, but do try), compassion, and tolerance for everyone?

I'd like to think the answer to the latter is yes.

Who knows where Chip and Joanna Gaines stand on same-sex marriage, who they voted for this election, or what beliefs and values they hold dear to their hearts.

Rather than assume we know or press them for answers -- especially since they haven't done anything that would warrant such question that we know of -- can we not live and let live?

Be like Elsa, and just "Let It Go."

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