It's a Big Deal That Naya Rivera Is Speaking Up About Her Abortion -- So Let's Listen

I'm 23 years old, and that's an age that technically constitutes me as old enough to bring kids into the world without the usual backlash. But it still feels too young to me right now -- there are certain aspects of my life that just aren't together enough to make me okay with letting another being rely on me. That's why I'm so grateful to Naya Rivera for opening up about the details of her 2010 abortion (which she got when she was just 23) -- because I know she gets it.


Rivera, who is promoting her memoir, Sorry Not Sorry, told People that she made the call without consulting the father and her ex-boyfriend, Ryan Dorsey (whom she later married in 2014). She cites wanting to focus on her career as the reason for going through with the abortion during a day off from the set of Glee. She told the mag:

It was very scary to open up about everything .... It's not something a lot of people talk about, but I think they should. I know some people might read it and say, 'What the hell?' But I hope someone out there gets something out of it.

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And at the very least, speaking for myself, I'm beyond grateful that she disclosed this information. While I don't advocate using abortion as a day-to-day form of birth control, I do believe that the procedure is circumstantial and those circumstances are not limited to teen pregnancy, rape, or medical issues. There's no age limit on deciding not to bring a child into the world -- especially knowing that raising a kid before you're ready may not only hinder you, but that child as well.

At the end of the day, we each make the decision that feels right for us. I'm hoping that sharing her story will make fewer women feel forced to make a decision based solely on society's judgment.

Naya has had time to grow in her career and in other areas of her life, and she seems happy with where she's at. She has a beautiful 11-month-old son whom she and her husband adore. And I have to believe that part of that happiness comes from being sure of herself and the decision she made to seek out more time for herself before taking on the responsibility of being someone's mother. 

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Naya was hoping that someone would get something out of her story, and while many find it problematic that she didn't keep these details private, I do think it will help someone, somewhere. I know it helped me.

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