Ellen Pompeo Is Teaching Her Daughters to Be Unapologetically Black & We Love It

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Raising black children in a world that doesn't treat them equally -- well, that's obviously difficult for parents. However, there's another parenting perspective that we often tend to forget about, and that perspective comes from the parents of biracial children. But Ellen Pompeo, actress and mother of two mixed-race girls, is giving us some insight -- and it's beautiful.


Although biracial love may flourish, not all parents (white or black) know how to properly touch on the subject with their children -- how to make their children feel accepted and loved. It's not something that all biracial families are successful at, but Pompeo has it pretty much down pat. 

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"My daughters [Sienna and Stella] are black so it's very important to me that they see a lot of images of beautiful, powerful, strong black women," the 46-year-old told People.

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 She went on to add: 

Every time there is a black woman on a magazine cover, whether it is Kerry Washington or whoever it is, I make sure that magazine is in my house and on my table. For me, that’s super important .... Every time [Venus and Serena Williams] play tennis, I make sure my daughters watch them.

This is crucial to raising black girls, because aside from society not loving us, it's sometimes difficult to tell if our own culture truly values us. Sure, the natural hair movement has helped to break down barriers, but there's still much colorism within our community that can make it difficult to simply love being black without pitting "good" hair against "bad" hair and light skin against darker skin in the way that our slave masters once taught us to do.  

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However, the more we (as a whole) show our young girls images of successful women who have one thing in common -- no matter how their hair coils and bounces, no matter how much more melanin they may or may not have, and no matter what genetic coding they're conceived from -- that they're black, the easier it will be to build the self-esteem of generations of black women to come. The easier it will be to teach black women (with light or dark or mixed skin) that they're just as good, just as worthy, and just as beautiful as anyone else. 

If we do this, if we push these images (of Kerry Washington and the like) and band against the negative images that the media constantly portrays of the "ugly black woman" -- then we can break away from the ages of lies that told us we were ugly to begin with.

But, the change starts with you -- the change starts at home. So while Pompeo may only be extending these lessons to her two daughters, these two little black girls are getting a new perspective on their skin. On their beauty. On becoming whatever it is that they desire. And that there is world changing. 


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