Amy Schumer Talks About the Awful, Non-Consensual Way She Lost Her Virginity

Amy Schumer isn't afraid to tell her honest (and many times very raw) truth both on-screen and IRL, which is why we absolutely love her. And her latest interview with Marie Claire is just an example of how her in-your-face frankness is another reason for fans to admire her even more. The comedian went on the record and spoke up about losing her virginity at 17 years old and why it wasn’t a positive (to say the least) experience at all.


The Trainwreck actress reveals in the magazine’s upcoming August issue that her first time was non-consensual:

My first sexual experience was not a good one. I didn't think about it until I started reading my journal again. When it happened, I wrote about it almost like a throwaway. It was like, And then I looked down and realized he was inside of me. He was saying, 'I'm so sorry' and 'I can't believe I did this.'

This is just wrong!

I don't care who you are, but if there is one thing that can be universally agreed upon, it is that no woman, teenager, or young girl should ever be forced into having sex. Period.

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Unfortunately, Schumer's experience is one that countless women have gone through and keep quiet about -- whether it be because of shame or fear of judgment. There is this sexist mentality that if a woman gets herself into this type of situation, then it's her fault.

And, it's absolutely not.

To quote those lessons that everyone should have learned in their middle school or high school sex ed class, no means no. I repeat, no means no. And the only way it's ever a yes is if you say that word.

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For many women, there is never a good time to lose their virginity. Most of the time trading in your V-card is awkward, painful, and never what anyone imagines. But every woman should have a choice. Women should be able to decide when and how they want to experience sex. A woman's first time shouldn't be some horrible memory of being sexually assaulted that scars her for life.

According to the Huffington Post, which took a look at the article in advance of publication, Schumer goes on to talk about another painful situation. She explained, "I had another time with a boyfriend where I was saying, 'No, stop,' and it was just completely ignored."

While Schumer doesn't identify as a victim, her experience further shows the societal issue at hand: the idea that rape –- because that's what it is –- is acceptable in our culture. Sex is not a right for a man. It's not something that a man deserves. It's not something that should be taken. It's not a prize. It's a shared experience that two consenting people decide to have together.

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No woman deserves to be raped or sexually assaulted in any way. It doesn't matter what she is wearing, what she said in the moment, or what she has done in the past.

And society still has a long way to go in acknowledging that -- because victim bashing and blaming continues to happen.

"You know, with the rape survivor, it’s not just shaming, it’s fury. It makes people so mad if you’re not a perfect victim," Schumer says in the magazine that hits newsstands on July 19.

I couldn't agree more. I applaud the 34-year-old comedian for talking about this subject that is so hard (if not impossible) for many women and girls to speak about.

Hopefully with Schumer opening up about her past, her fans and other women and girls alike will be more open about their own experiences. 

The only way to change the conversation about sex is to have the conversation. Sex occurs between two people, and both deserve the choice.



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