Stacey Dash Surprisingly Has Some Damn Good Parenting Advice: Talk to Your Kids

Stacey Dash

Over the past year or so (give or take), Stacey Dash has been on just about everyone's sh*t list for her ridiculous views regarding many different subjects. However, she recently appealed to our maternal sides –- reminding us that despite statements she has made in the past, she’s a mother first and possibly even a good one (who knows). In releasing her book, There Goes My Social Life: From Clueless to Conservative, Dash discusses her dark past with drugs, abuse, and the difficulty faced when confronted with the decision to keep a child in the midst of the madness that was her life at the time.

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Dash describes the painful moment in time to People:

When I got pregnant, I was doing a lot of drugs and I didn't want to live. I wanted to die. I was going to have an abortion. I was crying and I said to God, 'Please tell me what to do.' And God told me, 'Keep your son.' I ripped the IV out of my arm and I said, 'I'm keeping my son.'

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Now 25, her son Austin is around the same age as his mother was during the time her life was off the rails -- nearly the same age that she considered going through with the abortion.

"The best way to protect my children is to be honest with them," says Dash, who also has a 12-year-old daughter Lola. "I let them know that I survived. I'm not a victim. And there is nothing they can't overcome."

And, you know what? She's absolutely right. At 22, I like to think that many of the decisions I have made have a ton to do with my mother sharing her journey with me instead of sugarcoating it (or, at least where it mattered). 

Some may be outraged to hear that she has taken such an open approach considering all things, but consider this: If we teach our children that honesty is the best policy (and most of us do), then why would it be any different for you as a parent? Honesty will always get you the best results and the least amount of backlash, and for that I can appreciate the method to her madness.

My mother never downplayed the dangers of abuse -- drug and otherwise  -- nor did she reduce her struggles or triumphs to magical bullsh*t. When you share your journey with your child, it serves as both a cautionary tale and the tale of a hero -- your favorite hero or role model. 

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As children, we tend to believe that our parents are invincible. But when you as a parent truly embrace your journey and pass those lessons learned along to your children, it makes you, as a parent, more human -- which can certainly be scary for you but more comforting for them. All the while, the lessons, the survival, and the triumph ultimately serve to teach that as a part of you -- they, too, can overcome anything they face.

But, it also forges a path that makes it less likely for them to follow in your darkest of paths. 

By walking in her truth, with this book and otherwise, Stacey Dash has certainly set an exemplary example for her children. I may not agree with her politics or anything else that she usually displays to the public, but this act is one I'm 100 percent behind.

 

Image via Anthony J. Causi / Splash News

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