Amber Rose Dropped Some Serious Truth About Consent & Rape

God bless this woman! Amber Rose recently got real about what consent means, and when it doesn't apply. Basically, it doesn't matter how far down the hanky-panky road you travel, you always have the right to change your mind and say no.


The model and fierce feminist appeared on Tyrese Gibson and Rev. Run's new relationship series, It's Not You, It's Men, and shut it down about what men are entitled to do to her body: basically, anything she wants them to do -- even if it's to stop.

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When Tyrese addressed the issue that women might be "asking" for sexual attention by acting in a certain way, she immediately called out the victim-blaming. 

If I'm laying down with a man -- butt-naked -- and his condom is on, and I say, 'You know what? No. I don't want to do this. I changed my mind,' that means no. That means f-ing no. That's it.

It doesn't matter how far I take it or what I have on ... When I say no, it means no.

Thank you! It's almost as if she believes that men are human beings, not animals, and are capable of controlling their sexual urges. Crazy thought for some people, I know, but why shouldn't we treat men like capable people? If a woman says no, she doesn't want to go further than this, she changed her mind -- then it means stop.

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The guy then has every right to never see her again if he doesn't want to. He can ignore her calls (if she even makes them), go out with as many other girls as he wants, take care of business on his own later, any number of things. The one thing he can't do? Have sex with a girl who has said no, even if she said yes earlier. It's almost like we're allowed to change our minds about anything, unless we're women, and unless we have suggested that we might like to have sex with someone. That's dumb.

Rose also got into it over clothing choices, when Rev. Run said, "I've heard a quote like, 'Dress how you want to be addressed.'"

"Oh, boo," she countered. "No. That's not realistic. Stop it ... If I want to wear a short skirt or a tank top, and I'm at the club and I'm having fun with my friends and I feel sexy, I'm not DTF [Down To F---]."

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She went on, "I didn't come here to have sex. I didn't come here to hook up with nobody. I came out here with my girls and I just feel pretty. I'm not 'asking for' nothing."

Rose clarified that she wasn't angry with the guys in particular for having these thoughts, but she made it clear that it's that kind of thinking we need to change. "I'm not mad at y'all," she said. "That's how society raised all of us."

I'm with Amber on this one. It's time to make a change, and stop trying to blame women for date rape.


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