Michelle Duggar’s Bedroom Advice Is the Last Thing Daughter-in-Law Anna Needs

Michelle DuggarThough it's been a little while since we've heard from her, this matriarch is back to dispensing her advice -- and we think it might make most moms wince. In answering a question about what she'd tell her daughter Jill to keep in mind throughout her marriage, Michelle Duggar says always "be available" to meet your husband's needs -- even if you're not feelin' it. Ugh.


While the blog is a repost of one she wrote before Jill's wedding, publishing it again, especially at this time, has some speculating that she's taking a shot at her beleaguered daughter-in-law, Anna, whose husband, Josh, admitted to being unfaithful in the wake of the Ashley Madison scandal. 

Poor Anna, 27, had just given birth to the couple's fourth child when the eldest Duggar son confirmed he'd used the cheating site. Now it looks like Anna's mother-in-law's grin-and-bear-it advice toward pleasing your man may really be aimed at her. Here's what Michelle calls the best marital advice she ever received:

And so be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.’ 

Ugh, seems like Michelle's trying to make it look like it was Anna's fault she wasn't able to meet her husband's "needs." Sure, it's wonderful if you can enjoy a romantic relationship right up until your water breaks, but, seriously, if you don't feel like it, should you really be forced to put on a smile and make yourself "available"? Doesn't this seem like a thinly veiled attempt to justify why her son stepped out on his wife? It's horrible to think that Michelle would even consider shaming this young woman who's done nothing but stand by her man following his molestation scandal and bear baby after baby! 

What kind of advice is this to offer her own daughters? We wish she'd suggest that couples have mutual respect and open communication. Wouldn't you rather know your partner was actually interested in being intimate with you instead of just faking it to fulfill your needs? 

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And what happens when after years of being treated like a sex doll, one of her daughters thinks, "That's it. I've had enough. What about my needs?"

Constantly sublimating your needs leads to resentment and anger over time and those are never conducive to a healthy, loving marriage. 

We don't know what the future has in store for Anna, but advice like this is definitely something she doesn't need or deserve. 


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