Excerpt From 'It' Star’s Intimate Letter to Her Boyfriend Can Teach Us All About Lasting Love

lena dunhamIt's rare that we get to see a genuinely intimate moment in a big star's relationship. So the letter Lena Dunham wrote to her boyfriend Jack Antonoff is a must-read. Don't worry -- it wasn't pulled from her trash bin or swiped from her house. The Girls creator and star is sharing it for the We Think Alone project, which features personal messages for stars.

Just like on her show, Lena does not hold back in the letter. You know exactly how she feels and what Jack is in for. It reveals so much about her love and relationships in general. Take a look.


Written during her 2012 trip to India, she begins with the adorable term of endearment, "Dearest Baby." Here is a particularly moving excerpt about her visit to the Lodi garden in New Delhi:

We spent 40 minutes walking around the garden, and when we circled back they were still there, chatting like fiends. And I thought of you, like always, and I felt I could spend four days on a bench with you and it wouldn't be enough time to hear all the stories you have to tell.

I literally want to know everything you have ever seen and what you felt like while you were seeing it. And I will be so much better my whole life for knowing those things. I love you.

I must say, that is the perfect example of a romance still in its bliss stage. But the sad reality of this is that feeling fades for most couples. Once the newness is gone and a pair lapses into a routine, the passion can wane. Sad but true. That's not to say you aren't still in love, perhaps just not madly in love -- unless you work hard to keep that intensity. It can be done if you are willing to put in the time and creativity.

So how do you preserve that kind of passion that inspires letters like Lena's? There really is something to the notion of absence making the heart grow stronger. That doesn't mean you move out of the house. But not spending every single moment of down time together gives you the chance to miss each other. Another thing successful couples swear by -- private getaways. That means no kids and no other couples you are friends with. That allows time to really focus on each other with no added pressure. And, to take a cue from Lena, send a sweet or sexy note once in awhile. Since she and Jack are still going strong -- that clearly works for them.

How do you keep the passion in your relationship?


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