Patti Stanger Is Nuts, Not Homophobic

patti stanger on joy beharThe Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger doesn't seem that sorry for the offensive comments that made her Public Enemy #1 on Twitter the other day. Although she recently apologized, she went on Joy Behar's HLN show yesterday and opened her nutty mouth AGAIN, while trying to defend her original statement: "In the gay world, there’s always going to be open [relationships] .... There is no curbing the gay man. I have tried to curb you people."

To Joy she said, "The gay man ... they whip it out at eye lock! They get involved, and then find out later whether or not they want a serious relationship." Oh jeeze. Patti, Patti, Patti. Obviously, she is just digging her grave even deeper, but the reality with this reality star is that she's a big mouth, control freak, yakmeister Gemini who is lacking a filter. But these personality dysfunctions, as you might call them, are her worst offense.


Her comments, on the other hand? Not to be taken so seriously.

Honestly, I was taken aback by her comment that "Jewish men lie" and was irritated by it on behalf of my honest, loving Jewish father and Jewish boyfriend for about 30 seconds, before I let it roll off my back. It's freakin' Patti! If you watch Matchmaker for 5 minutes, you know she's crazy and at times irrationally opinionated (usually on things that seem super-trivial like hair color or teeth). She also got burned by her Jewish ex. In other words, she lets her own life totally color most of the insanity that comes out of her mouth, and hey, don't we all to some extent?

Most importantly, though, I don't think she means any harm. She said so herself to Joy that she's an "advocate ... in the trenches" for gay marriage, she has tons of gay friends, and she clarified that her comments are based on her experience with the "players" in the Los Angeles gay community (who have a lot in common with the players in the L.A. straight community -- true story!). I buy that. I really believe she's proud to be close with the gay community and proud to be a Jewish-American woman. More reason I wouldn't call what she's saying "homophobic" or "anti-Semitic." She's just running her big mouth, not thinking before she babbles "sweeping statements" (as Joy put it) based on her personal biases and experiences. Her thoughts may be stupid and annoying, but they're not hate-filled.

There are plenty of other people in the media making homophobic, and occasionally anti-Semitic, comments that are based in actual ignorance and hate (cough Rick Santorum/people in the audience at GOP debates/Michele and Marcus Bachmann cough). They're the ones who deserve to be shunned by the public. Patti's nowhere near as ridiculous or worrisome as them. Yeah, she needs to learn to shut up while she's behind, but her kooky comments should simply be taken with a grain of salt. 

Are you offended by Patti's statements?


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