I'm Becky Sherrick Harks, better known as Aunt Becky, and you'll normally find me blathering on my own blog, Mommy Wants Vodka. But I'm here at The Stir to secure Total World Domination, er, discuss how I'm (barely) surviving parenthood.
With Valentine's Day here already, I know many women who are anxiously awaiting a little tiny box full of sparkly doo-dads and a dinner fit for a queen. I know even MORE women who are looking forward to all that hullabaloo PLUS a romp in the sheets.
Here are some tips for getting down and dirty on a holiday that celebrates, what else? LOVE.
Let's get crack-a-lackin' with some tips to make your Valentine's Day sizzle.
I knew a girl once who, only semi-bitterly, referred to Valentine's Day as "Singles' Awareness Day."
Newly engaged, I merely laughed at the notion -- the most fun I'd had on Valentine's Day was during my seahorse period. My girlfriends and I, who all happened to be single at the time, by some miracle of luck, went out and celebrated together.
It was the best Valentine's Day ever.
This one, though, which is looming over me like a particularly cheerful cloud, is going to be a bit ... different.
I'd been prepared for the sleepless nights and the colic and the screaming and the horrifying diaper changes. What I hadn't been prepared for was the fact that I'd feel like absolute dog shit every time I didn't measure up to my impossibly high standards as "Parent of the Year."
Parental guilt at its finest: you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
No one ever said divorce was easy. Or if they did, they should be smacked down. Hard. Because it's not. Even though my husband and I are still friends - mostly for the kids, but also because we like each other as people - it's tough.
Whether you're at the beginning of the divorce, when all things must be done! right! now!; during the middle of a divorce, struggling to find your way again; or at the end, when all is said and done, it can be hard to remember which way is up.
Here are my best tips for someone who is going through a divorce.