Aunt Becky

I'm Becky Sherrick Harks, better known as Aunt Becky, and you'll normally find me blathering on my own blog, Mommy Wants Vodka. But I'm here at The Stir to secure Total World Domination, er, discuss how I'm (barely) surviving parenthood.

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We Tried It
20 Tricks for Getting Through a Divorce in One Piece

posted by Aunt Becky March 3 at 2:03 PM in Love & Sex

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I never expected it to be so hard. I know that's what they always say when you're getting a divorce, but it's so true.

I've never spent so much time feeling like utter dog poo about myself, my life, my goals, and my aspirations. I didn't get married so I could get a divorce. It's not my style. And yet, here I am. On my own for the first time in my life.

And while it IS hard, I'm surviving. And guess what? You can too.

Here are some tips I've learned about getting through a divorce.
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Inspiring
10 Ways to Get Used to Being Alone Again After a Divorce

posted by Aunt Becky February 27 at 10:05 PM in Love & Sex

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I've never lived alone before.

No, stop staring at me like that -- I swear, I have good reasons. I got pregnant and waddled from an apartment I shared with my ex back to the house I lived in with my parents so that I could go to nursing school and get a job that pays more than "do you want fries with that?"

Then, I met and married my husband shortly after graduation, when we bought a condo together. So in all those years, I was always living with someone.

But July, we decided to divorce after nearly 10 years of marriage and I moved into my own place. Which means that I'm in the process of learning how to live on my own. I couldn't be happier, but it's hard to get used to sometimes. Here's how I'm learning to live alone after my divorce.
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Say What!?
10 Tips for Surviving the Aftermath of Your Spouse Asking for a Divorce

posted by Aunt Becky February 25 at 4:10 PM in Love & Sex

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After announcing my own impending divorce, I was inundated with sweet and kind emails from people who had been long-time readers of my site.

Many of them offered love and support, a rare bright spot during those dark days.

Still others told me their story: they'd come home from work to find their husband had left ... for good. They'd woken up to the words, "I want a divorce."

The problem, they informed me, was that they did not.

Talk about making an already soul-wrenching situation even worse. Here are some tips for coping with a divorce ... that you don't want.
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Love & Learn
How Do You Move On From a Divorce If You Still Love Your Ex?

posted by Aunt Becky February 23 at 4:12 PM in Love & Sex

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We've all been through that kind of breakup or divorce.

Y'know, the one that leaves us weak in the knees, gasping for air, and wondering how it all went so wrong. The one that leaves our hearts breaking, wondering how we are going to get through the next five minutes, let alone next five years.

Yeah. That breakup. The one where you are beyond crushed because you are still very much in love with your soon-to-be ex -- and you don't want the relationship to end.

So if that's how you feel, is it wise to stay friends? How do you move on? How do you keep those romantic feelings at bay?
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My Daughter Is a Girlie Girl & I Couldn't Be Happier

posted by Aunt Becky February 17 at 7:31 PM in Toddler

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When I found out that my daughter, was, in fact, a daughter (I believe the tech said something about a "cheeseburger" when describing my fetus, but I'm not entirely positive about that), I began to cry. Tears of joy.

See, I'd always expected I'd be the mother of three sons, which I'd accepted as my lot in life. I love my sons like I love butter and I wouldn't trade them for anything in the world. Not even a yacht.

But to find out that I was going to be the mother of a daughter? Me? With a daughter? I was beyond thrilled. And terrified.
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