I’m Jen. And I’m the mother of two teens and the stepmother of one. Which means that I’m divorced. (And have been for over a decade.) And remarried. (And have been for over six years.) Hubs owns a restaurant which means I rarely have to cook. But I do all of the dishes. And when I’m not shuttling my kids around, doing multiple loads of laundry or going to Las Vegas with my husband, I can be found writing at my personal blog Life’s Dewlaps. I hope having a sense of humor will help me get through the teen years, co-parenting and aging. I’ll let you know.
Espresso in the morning, Dirty Vodka Martinis on Thursday nights
When I got married the first time, more than 15 years ago, I had the wedding I'd always dreamed of in a beautiful old hotel with high frescoed ceilings. Surrounded by 200 of my closest family and friends, I wore a wedding dress that I had designed with the help of an amazing seamstress.
Except for this: I had some serious doubts about my relationship with my husband-to-be. Those doubts didn't really hit me until a few months before the wedding took place. Up until then, I had been too busy planning it and attending events in our honor to think about the marriage itself. I mean really think about it.
But I wasn't too concerned. Didn’t everyone have doubts about getting married? Could you ever be totally sure that you were marrying the right person?
Has your partner ever had a problem with premature ejaculation?
I’m not talking about every once in a while. I’m talking about most of the time.
If so, then he’s not alone.
Premature ejaculation is a common problem experienced by up to 30 percent of men at some point in their lives.
Some men might be embarrassed by their tendency to climax too early and not want to talk about it. Some may even pretend that it doesn’t happen. And if your partner’s little problem is frustrating for you, imagine how it must make him feel.
If you’ve been stuck in a bad marriage for a while, getting divorced is a release. Yes, it's still hard and sad and complicated, especially when there are children involved. But the truth is, once you're out of the marriage, it feels like a weight has been lifted.
And with that lifting can come an invigorating rush of new-found sexuality.
Sure, for some divorced women, whose marriages dissolved unexpectedly or as a result of infidelity, the heartbreak and trauma they've experienced can translate in to a complete lack of sexual desire.
But others, like me, who were unhappy in their marriages and whose divorces gave them relief, can't wait to break free.
Let's say that you love your man. And he loves you. The two of you have this really, really wonderful relationship. Except for this one thing: He doesn’t go down on you. You know what I mean. He's not a beaver whisperer or a believer in the art of cunnilingus.
For some women, this might be okay. But for me, it would be a deal breaker. I think performing oral sex on each other is one of the greatest pleasures of intimacy. And happily, my husband and I are on the same page on this.
But if your guy is hesitant and you're looking to be on the receiving end, here are some things that you can do to help him find his way.