I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World, and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5Ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, two kids (Sam, 6, and Alan, 4), a corpulent cat, and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
Ah, The Bachelor. Year after year, it's just the gift that keeps on giving. They have found a formula and made that formula work for them again, again, and again. Now that the women of Juan Pablo's season of The Bachelor have been revealed, it's easy to see that this season (starting in January) is going to be JUST as delicious.
And what IS that formula? Well it starts with one hot and eligible man. Very often he was desirable in another season, like Juan Pablo was with Desiree Hartsock. But by now, the fame has gone to his head and in his own season you KNOW it will never last. But that's just the beginning.
The next step is the women. And who are they? Well, they range in age from 21 to 33, usually with the older ones being pegged as desperate harpies while the younger ones are always being asked if they are "too young to be thinking of marriage" and if they are "here for the right reasons" (answers: yes and no). Oh, but there is more.
Being a mother is hard, hard, hard, and no one knows this better than Teen Mom Kailyn Lowry. She is an immensely loving and involved parent to both her son Isaac with her ex-boyfriend and her newborn baby son Lincoln as well. And when her husband Javi tweeted out to the world his appreciation of his wife, the world sighed a collective "awwww."
It's really, really sweet.
But what he said? Is one of those things that gets under my mom skin. Here's his tweet:
Caran Johnson is a resident of Washington state known by her Twitter hande @ScanCouver who often live tweets traffic updates that she hears over her police scanner. Yesterday, she had the absolutely jaw-droppingly horrible coincidence of live tweeting her own husband's death on I-205.
Her husband, 47-year-old Craig Johnson, was killed after his car inexplicably crossed from the northbound lanes into southbound I-205 and struck a pick-up truck. He died before help arrived, but there was a long lag between when his wife knew there had been an accident and finding out it was her husband.
Her live tweets are just absolute devastation told in real time, and anyone with children and a spouse they love can relate to her rising panic and grief. They are devastating to read. See below:
Lighthouse Baptist Church Pastor Mike Butzberger has put up a different slogan on his church's front sign every week for 15 years. Most of the time, these signs are little helpful sayings or inspirational words, but this time, Pastor Butzberger decided to take on Hanukkah. And now a whole lot of people are upset.
This week, his sign reads: "Christmas easier to spell than Hanukkah." It's true. As a Jewish person, I am accustomed to seeing it spelled Chanukah, Hanukkah, Hannukah, and even other variations. It IS hard to spell. He's right. But it's also a really ignorant sign.
The question of whether or not it's offensive isn't really part of the equation. Sure, it's mildly annoying to suggest that somehow Hanukkah is getting more play than Christmas. Trust me, as the mom of two interfaith kids, Christmas is in NO way getting the shaft here.
After more than a decade of marriage, I have heard my fair share of sighing friends who say, "Oh don't you just miss the newlywed years?" It's a common joke that a few years into marriage, you are out of the wanting to kiss every second of every day phase and into the I just want to sleep alone for 10 minutes phase of marriage.
But that's not the reality for a lot of us. Sure, it's true that marriage changes. Gone are the carefree days when my husband and I used to order pizza and camp on the couch all night watching bad reality TV, making out, and laughing. But things were generally different back then anyway. We had no kids, no dog, no hectic jobs, and we were 10 years younger.
Marriage now, though different, is far, far better. Here are some of the ways it has changed: