I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World, and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5Ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, three kids (7, 5, and 4 months), a corpulent cat, and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
In the early days of my marriage, I can fully admit I was one super scattered wife. At just 25, I was still in the "look at me" phase of youth when I wanted every man to notice me and think I was attractive.
My husband would often tell me (and to be honest, still tells me), "You care about everyone's opinion but mine."
At one point, that was probably true. After all, he HAS to think I am attractive. He's stuck with me. Somehow the eyes of others felt more discerning, more important.
I told myself back then that my husband had low standards for beauty (he doesn't), which was really a way of insulting myself. If he thinks I am the hottest woman out there, he must be wrong, right?
I know I'm not alone. I've heard countless women discount their spouse's opinion that way, and it's sad. Because now, after growing up a bit and becoming a mom three times over, I've realized the truth: ONLY his opinion matters.
For the past eight years, I have been a work-at-homemom. In the early years, I was freelance, which meant that I did have a great deal of flexibility and could hang out with my kids during the day while working at night. But eventually I became staff, and with that my freedom was gone.
What that means to you, oh dear stay-at-home mom friend whom I love? It means I'm sorry, but I can't meet you at the pool at 1:00 on a Wednesday afternoon. Or the coffee shop. Or your house. Or pretty much anywhere.
Not this week. Not ever. Unless I take the day off. Got that?
But that won't stop her (and countless others) from asking. Hell, even my own husband took a few years to grasp that I really didn't have time to do all the laundry, clean up after the kids, and drop off his dry cleaning. I'm working here, people!
What would you do if the man you loved died 52 days before your wedding? Most of us would collapse in a pile of grief, unable to focus on much of anything but our sadness. But not Janine. This bride did the amazing after losing her fiance Johnny. She went to the Mayan Riviera, donned the dress she was to marry him in, and jumped into the water wearing it.
The resulting photos are nothing short of spectacular.
The portraits were a gift from photographer MattAdcock of Del Sol Photography and were shot on a single day this past month. They are full of so much emotion and meaning, it's hard to even put into words. Adcock himself was equally moved and said the photo shoot wasn't easy to orchestrate.
In the early part of my relationship with my husband, I was DEFINITELY the jealous sort. If a girl got within five feet of my then-boyfriend, I was ready to throw down. More than one near physical fight was averted by my boyfriend dragging me into another room and talking me down.
To be fair, he had given me reason to be jealous. My then-boyfriend was all about "casually" dating me and several other women at the same time. By the time we committed and he was only dating me, my trust was not exactly high.
Even given those facts, my jealousy was out of control. Back then it would have been hard to imagine that I would someday say I liked when other women noticed my husband or that I enjoyed it when women asked if he has a brother or called him a "catch."
But sure enough, more than a decade after those fits of rage, that's exactly what I feel. So go ahead and ogle my man. It makes me happy.
Sex is a huge part of all of our lives anyway you look at it. Whether you are getting it (or not getting it), we all think about sex an absurd amount. But not all of us are doing it right.
Oh, I know, we THINK we are. Like Mel Brooks once said: "Sex is like pizza. Even when it's done bad, it's still pretty good."
The fact is, most people over-think sex. There seems to be this popular notion out there that you need to have everything just right -- the right toys, the right mood, the right music -- just to get a little nooky. In fact, the whole thing could be greatly simplified with just a little creativity and ingenuity.
It's just sex! With that in mind, we trolled the Internet for the best sex tricks that don't require a major investment of time or money. We found 10 sex hacks so hot, we know EXACTLY what you'll be doing tonight. And that's the idea.