I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World, and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5Ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, three kids (7, 5, and 4 months), a corpulent cat, and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
Sex. We talk about it and think about it far more than we actually do it. And that's a damn shame. Especially for those of us who sleep next to our partners every night and it still doesn't happen. What can we say? We are tired, have children, jobs, and busy lives.
That's no excuse. Enter the sex drawer.
We all have one, right? Er, maybe not ALL of us, OK. But I know I do. And most women I know do as well. It's the little drawer in your nightstand that is full of all your goodies. At times, mine has contained handcuffs, flavored "treats," my dream journal (it's not ALL about sex), various pieces of erotica, and, of course, some toys. Having it close at hand is just more conducive to having a good time.
So what should be in every woman's bedside sex drawer? We talked to Claire Cavanah, Babeland co-founder and co-author of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex, to get her best tips for must-have sex drawer essentials -- and we added in some of our own, too.
Sixty years ago, moms and dads had pretty defined roles in the American family. Dad went out and made a living, while mom took care of the home. She cooked, cleaned, and did the lion's share of the childcare, while dad spent his time earning the money that kept the family afloat. For some, this system worked. But for many, it was ultimately unsatisfying, which is why now, decades later, things have changed so dramatically.
Today it isn't uncommon to see a dad at the park alone with his kids. Just the other day I watched my neighbor play in the baby pool with his three children under 4 while his loving wife did her shift at the hospital as an emergency pediatrician. Pretty impressive but also pretty standard nowadays.
There are few relationships more fraught with drama than the ones with our in-laws. Even those who would claim to love their mothers-in-law (and we all hate you -- ha!) have had issues from time to time, right?
I mean, it makes perfect sense. You marry the man, not his mother. And even so, she creeps into everything he does and defends even his most boneheaded moves. It's bound to be a hard relationship. And who can blame her for loving her baby boy, anyway? Those of us who have sons can attest to just how strong that bond truly is.
Still, there are ways to ease the pain and make things just a little bit simpler for everyone (including yourself!). We asked experts for some tips and came up with five ways to improve your relationship with your in-laws.
From the moment the second line on the pee stick turned pink indicating my husband and I were expecting our first child, I longed for a daughter. Actually, if I am being honest, I wanted her long before that moment in the bathroom when I went from one body to two. I think I'd been wanting a daughter since I was old enough to play with dolls and I was only interested in the ones in pink and frills. So when my midwife waved her magic wand over my belly and told me in no uncertain terms that the babe inside was pink as could be, I cried with elation.
My husband was less sure. He'd been raised with only a brother. But I knew then and there I was getting the one dream I'd always had -- a mini me who would help bring back a mother-daughter relationship after the pain of losing my own mom at 16. It was too exciting.
What makes a marriage last? The answer to that question is different for everyone, and every marriage is individual. That said, there are lessons to be gleaned from other marriages and things we can incorporate into our own to fortify and strengthen them. But what are they?
Whether it's regular hot sex for decades or something more subtle and intangible, the people we know who have been married for 10, 20, 30+ years all have their own reasons their relationships have endured while so many others have failed. A few weeks ago, we heard from 10 women on what a "good marriage" is.
This time, eight men get their say about what makes a marriage stand the test of time. And what they have to say might surprise you!