I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World, and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5Ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, three kids (7, 5, and 4 months), a corpulent cat, and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
Ask any married couple and you will hear the same thing: Being married is not easy. Loving someone and having them be your best friend is wonderful, but the daily slog and the tit for tat fights and the little squabbles add up. Sometimes the person you love most in the world becomes the person whose eyes you dream of scratching out in a fit of rage. Those are the bad moments.
Of course, there are also lovely moments. Moments when you can't imagine being with anyone else and the sun rises and sets with your spouse. But how can you tell when the bad moments are starting to outnumber the good? How can you tell when your marriage has gone from normal, everyday difficulty to "we're in trouble" town?
Assuming this is not an Internet hoax, it's easily one of the greatest wedding stories in history. It all started when the bride-to-be (Kristen) sent out a text message to someone (it's not clear who) providing the address and time during which they would be taking wedding photos. Soon it was revealed that she had the wrong number, but the total stranger she texted replied: "We still coming."
He was true to his now-famous word. They came. They saw. They took photos. The result was amazing.
How often are you and your husband having sex? It's a personal question not many people have the courage to ask (or answer!), but it's something most of us wonder, especially when we get curious about how our own sex lives stack up against those of other married couples.
In fact, just how often spouses are sleeping together might throw you for a loop. Even people married decades and well into their 50s are apparently getting it on as many times as people half their age who have no kids. Impressive, right? For instance, one man who's been married for 15 years says he and his wife are engaging in intercourse five to seven times a week! Really?!
Rich, ugly men marry hot women, right? It's an age-old formula we all know far too well. Think of Billy Joel and Christie Brinkley or Ric Ocasek and Paulina Poriskova -- or any number of aging multi-millionaires who aren't exactly swimming in the good gene pool who managed to land themselves stunning women. Well hold onto your hats, folks, because I'm about to rock your world with this: It's all a lie.
According to a study that ran last month in the American Sociological Review, the idea of a "status exchange" relationship -- where one partner, usually a man, exchanges his wealth and power for the other partner's beauty -- is largely a myth. Yes, that's right. Everything you think you know, you don't.
A Reddit user's post has gone viral this week after she revealed the Excel spreadsheet her husband sent her when she left for a business trip. In it, he details the entire month of June into July and the myriad excuses she gave him for not wanting sex. Assuming this is real and not some Internet hoax, it's pretty shocking. And it's also hilariously astute.
She used the typical reasons for turning down sex -- I'm tired, I have to be up early, etc. But she also had some inventive ones -- I'm still sore from last night's sex (REALLY?!), I feel "gross," and I'm watching TV (a Friends rerun).
People are divided over whether the husband's spreadsheet documenting her sex excuses is manipulative and crass and whether the wife is ruining her marriage with her frequent denial of sex. Any married person will tell you: We don't OWE our spouses sex, but we also kind of DO. Sorry. It's the truth. And it's not just me saying that. Experts agree.