I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, two kids (Sam, 6, and Alan, 4), a corpulent cat and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
Jennifer Aniston is starring this summer in a movie called We're the Millers in which she plays a stripper hired to play a suburban mom in order to smuggle pot form Mexico. In the trailer, she strips down to her skivvies, and dang, does she look good. And yet, even so, I am not quite buying her as the stripper type.
I mean, can we all just agree, Jen is way more classic preppy, rich girl than used up stripper. I am all for thinking outside the box for roles, but this just seems WAY outside it. I mean, classically pretty Jen Aniston as a stripper? I don't think so.
One of the perks of being married is that sex is kind of always on the menu. When you are single and sexually active outside of a relationship, you can go for months without getting any and it can be stressful, depressing, and downright frustrating. Even with all this being said, though, sex is never really guaranteed every night and every day without any boundaries. That isn't what marriage is all about.
It seems a contingent of women are proud of the fact that they "never say no" to their spouses. I would argue that, in many cases, constantly saying yes is bad for your marriage, too. I know in my marriage, my husband really only wants to when I am in the mood, too. He would rather I say no (and respect me more) one night and then be hella excited the next one.
A wife isn't a personal sex slave. Men respect a woman with boundaries more anyway, and sometimes we are just not in the mood. With this in mind, here are 5 reasons a woman should say no:
A freak accident on a school field trip in Minnesota has left one child dead and one more still missing. The group of fourth graders had been digging for fossils when the gravel they were standing on collapsed beneath their feet, forming a hole that swallowed four of the children.
Frantic digging uncovered two of them, but a third was killed and one more is still missing. It's an absolute nightmare scenario for a parent. One minute your child is happy and excited to be headed on a field trip, and the next they are gone. One of the hardest parts of parenting is knowing how vulnerable we are, and it's stories like this that remind us.
We can't stop sending our kids to school or on field trips (unless we want to be paranoid). We just have to trust and have faith that stories like this are the exception, not the norm. But how?
CNN anchor Wolf Blitzer was in Oklahoma reporting on the devastating tornado when he came across a woman and her baby. Through a lens of false caring, he managed to majorly put his foot in his mouth. Oh yes, the journalist asked the woman if she "thanked the lord" for her survival. Which would have been a fine question.
For many people who marry young, the engagement ring of their dreams is far, far out of their reach. I know when my husband and I married, I had dreams of multiple carats, but my graduate student husband had more affordable plans. We got the ring he could afford at the time, which is a lovely three-stone ring, a carat in the middle and a quarter carat on each side. I love it.
But now that we have been married 10 years, I am aware of the fact that what he could afford NOW would be much more grand. And when I hang out with local women, sometimes I am aware that their diamonds are just a bit more BLING than my pretty, subtle ring. But you know what? I wouldn't change it for anything.
Of course, I may be alone in that thinking. A lot of women think it's perfectly normal to upgrade or otherwise enhance or change up their wedding set. I don't judge it. Exactly. But I do wonder why. Here are 6 reasons to keep the ring you got at your wedding: