I am a mother, runner, wife, editor, and writer. My work has appeared in The New York Times, Parents, Parenting, Runner's World, and many other publications over the years. I also make a mean margarita and run races (everything from 5Ks to marathons).
I live outside of New York City with my husband, two kids (Sam, 6, and Alan, 4), a corpulent cat, and a chihuahua with emotional issues.
In recent months, I have seen a disturbing amount of divorces. Many of these were couples that, from all outside appearances, seemed happy, together, and (dare I say it) even perfect. So what happened?
It's hard to say. Obviously, you can never know from the outside what kinds of things break up a marriage. Each marriage is individual and each person in a marriage has their own breaking point. What one person considers a dealbreaker, others might be able to forgive.
Still, there are so many small ways that marriages fall apart that most people don't even think of. For those of us who want to safeguard our own marriages, there are many small ways we can work toward that goal. Here are 5 small acts that may actually divorce-proof your marriage.
I am currently headed into the home stretch of my third pregnancy. With just a few weeks left to go, my mind is on folding newborn clothing, getting all my supplies for our planned home birth, and kick counts to make sure the baby is healthy. It's a good time.
Physically, though, it's also a hard time. I am six years older than the last time I was pregnant, and my body feels that age in every way. I am achy and creaky and cranky and whiny, and my poor husband, supportive as he is, has to hear it all. Poor dude.
He is a fantastic daddy to our two older children and is every bit as hands on involved as I am when it comes to bedtime, pickups/dropoffs, extracurriculars, and more. But no man, no matter how wonderful, can actually get what it's like to be pregnant. I know he tries, but I have talked to a number of women and compiled a list of things we all WISH our husbands had said to us while we were pregnant. See below:
Teen Mom has been a very successful franchise for MTV and has turned Jenelle Evans, Farrah Abraham, Catelynn Lowell, and Maci Bookout into household names. But for some reason, Teen Mom 3 just never took off the way Teen Mom and Teen Mom 2 did. Now, it seems the show has been canceled.
According to tweets from star Briana Dejesus, the show has been canceled once and for all. For those of us who appreciated this show because, unlike past cast members, Mackenzie Douthit, Briana Dejesus, Katie Yeager, and Alex Sekella seemed to have it more together, this is disappointing news.
Now we will never see Mackenzie give birth to her second and won't be able to follow these girls' storylines. See Briana's tweets below:
When Aron Ralston, 38, cut off his forearm to free himself from a boulder in 2003 after he fell into a canyon on a hike, he earned international fame. He has been coveted as a motivational speaker, and his story was turned into the Oscar-nominated film 127 Hours starring James Franco. So it's pretty shocking news that on Saturday night, Ralston was arrested at the home of a 38-year-old woman (not his wife) and charged with domestic violence.
There are sparse details available on Ralston’s arrest, but he was charged with assault and "wrongs to minors."
Anyone who knows the story knows that Ralston is amazingly tough and resilient. What he was able to do, armed only with a pocket knife, is simply super human. But, of course, it's a lesson we learn again and again. People are complicated. Even a hero can do things that are less than heroic (and sometimes even criminal).
In a horror story that no one ever likes to imagine, the Ferraz do Amaral family of Orlando, Florida was found dead in their garage this past weekend after being there for close to three weeks before anyone noticed.
Forty-five-year-old Marcio Ferraz do Amaral and his wife, 34-year-old Cledione, were behind on their rent, according to authorities, and had recently run into money troubles. He was a pilot and she worked part-time for Disney. The two lived with their 10-year-old daughter in a rented home.
Though police suspect that this was a murder-suicide, it was three weeks before anyone came by to check on the family, all three of whom were found in the garage. Such a tragedy.