CafeMom is chock-full of wise and compassionate women who do a lovely job of answering questions for each other. But sometimes you want a different point of view, and that's my raison d'etre, mes amis (didn't know I spoke Latin, didja?). I'm the dad, and this is Ask Dad.

Today's question:

What are some signs that I shouldn't marry my boyfriend?

Short and direct -- I like it. The first thing that leaps to mind is, "If you have to ask ..." Having doubts doesn't necessarily mean you should never marry him, but you are wise to heed that quiet but insistent voice in your head until you are completely sure he's the one. As for specific signs, there are plenty, but here's a start.

Got a question about guys? Ask Dad, and you shall receive (an answer). Today's query:

My husband of 11 years just told me that before we got married, he went to a strip club with friends and got a couple of lap dances. I am angry and confused since we had an extremely active sex life. Why do men do this? Should I trust him or leave him?

Wait. We're talking about something that happened at least 12 years ago? Before you were married? And you're upset?

Howdy, citizens. You're just in time -- the Ask Dad train is loading up for another spin. All aboard!

I'm a divorced woman, late 30s, no kids. Yes, my biological clock is ticking. My ex-bf offered to get me pregnant so I can experience motherhood, but we would not be a couple. Should I do it?

Oh, but you would be a couple -- a couple of parents to your baby, which, unlike your dating status, will never change. Ever.