Hi. I'm Kristen. Not Krissy. Or Kris. There's a difference. After having kids, I left life as a college music professor and became a writer, sex book author, and the current host of Cafemom Studios' show "Coffee Shop Confessions."
When I'm not chasing after my four children or trying to keep track of my commercial pilot and Air Force Reserves officer husband, I can be found at my personal blog Motherhood Uncensored, as well as at Cool Mom Picks and Cool Mom Tech where I'm co-publisher and CEO.
I was never a "full-face make-up every day" kind of girl before I had kids, but I certainly took better care of myself. Now that I have four children, I admit that I've ditched a lot of my beauty routine, mostly due to time.
Sleep or shaving? Yes, it's come to that, as it does for so many moms.
But when I take care of myself and my appearance, I feel better and have a more positive attitude. So here are a few simple beauty rituals I'll be reclaiming, even if I have to force myself to.
For the longest time, I thought self-care was selfish. So it's no surprise that taking care of me falls way down on my priority list.
But if there's anything I've learned over the years, taking care of yourself is so important for your marriage and it's good for your kids to see too. The challenge is being able to make time for it without burdening your partner and doing it without feeling guilty. Here are my tips:
In addition to marriage counseling, I've started getting therapy for myself too. I've been in and out over the years, mostly when I've needed the extra support to deal with difficult family issues.
But every time I go back, I wonder why I ever stopped because I find the sounding board and guidance of a neutral party to be so helpful in every aspect of my life, whether it's parenting, my relationship, or my own personal goals and needs.
If you're wondering why you might need to go to individual therapy to help your marriage, here's why I decided to take the plunge alone.